Gifted - Supporting Emotional Needs - Resources

quickchef

Thu, Dec 23 2010, 6:22 am

I found excellent advice and insight on how to deal with children that may be gifted, and their unique emotional needs and difficulties, at the SENG site (Supporting Emotional Needs of the Gifted) sengifted.com.

My child has not been evaluated or officially diagnosed... He is very bright AND yet, paradoxically, has issues academically - which is one of the things (making a long story VERY short) that recently prompted me to research for some insight on how I can help him. To me, labels are not important... only insofar that it is helpful to the parent or child on how to deal with issues.. and so I am not obsessed with getting him "properly evaluated/diagnosed" because I have found his issues comfortably fit into the "gifted but challenged" category and the techniques and advice are on the mark and helpful.

As well, I think my 4 y.o. daughter may also fit that profile... and will try to do additional research to see how I can help her too.

amother

Thu, Dec 23 2010, 11:20 am

quickchef wrote:

amother wrote:

OP of original thread.

I know I said I wouldn't comment further on the topic of giftedness but if this thread is centering on how to help parents and not on pointless debate, I'd like to join in.

Also helpful are these two books:

Uniquely Gifted
http://www.amazon.com/Uniquely.....6504X

and

Different Minds
http://www.amazon.com/Differen.....29645

These books discuss children who are gifted but have learning disabilities, Asperger's or ADHD

YES, that was the point! Thanks for chiming in... (maybe we can do it this way temporarily...)

Hi , my son is gifted and extremely emotionaly sensitive we found that channeling his verbal skills towards expressing his feelings has been very effective and he has learned to cope and deal well,he is almost a teen and functions well on a fully integrated classroom, in his early years we dealt with many issues with both teachers and other kids until he was assesed and a plan created for him to succed ,he is B'H thriving at school and this is the reason why I feel early diagnosis and an action plan is essential, kudos to you mums seeking info and supprt .

he used to hate textures so we got a pet cat and the positive association with kitty was great ,he learned bonding, tolerance and gentle touch! kitty has helped him to almost fully overcome the tendency to become overstimulated. As he has gotten older he has become less reactive in general so there is light at the end of the tunnel , a specialist consulted explained that as the brain ages it can adapt to stimuli by being coached .

Another wise therapist encouraged us to find his strongest gift in his case both verbal and written expression and use it to convey his greatest challenge emotional sensitivity and perfectionism. So from different professionals we have gained tremendos insight ,there are amazing dedicated professionals out there and so much reasearch has been done in the last 50 years!!

I would 100 times prefer a safe haven and would hate to have to apply to join a close circle with any self appointed "boss" (I mean the monopolizing argumentative types that disect every word) ,with a haven people understand bashing is not acceptable and it allows people to lurk and learn until they feel confortable posting.

The other thread is adversarial IMO because it has a distinctive exclusive ,defensive (I know so so it is so ) and a millitant feel to it (calling for people to be banned) (or people accusing posters of passive agression when asking valid questions was also a big turn off ), some amothers are rude ,but so are some of the posters ,I guess they don't see they intimidate people by being overly reactive themselves .

I proposed that people can ask yael for a username to be used exclusively for posting this topic If they feel their privacy has been compromised ..... but was ignored Rolling Eyes

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I'm sure by keeping it open as a haven, we would get the imput of some caring educators and/or we would create awareness for them and other parents in case they have not been exposed to kids like our children.

Please dont rip my skin off Wink

Barbara

Thu, Dec 23 2010, 11:37 am

quickchef wrote:

Apart from his emotional needs (which I won't address since you don't refer to their nature), you might consider having a psych-ed evaluation. There are children who are euphemistically referred to as *twice-gifted* -- gifted, but with learning differences. The learning differences may result in academic struggles that one would not expect in light of their intelligence. AFAIK, virtually any learning difference can co-exist with extreme brightness.

HindaRochel

Thu, Dec 23 2010, 12:23 pm

amother wrote:

I would 100 times prefer a safe haven and would hate to have to apply to join a close circle with any self appointed "boss" (I mean the monopolizing argumentative types that disect every word) ,with a haven people understand bashing is not acceptable and it allows people to lurk and learn until they feel confortable posting.

I don't think there will be a "boss". Basically anyone could join as there really doesn't seem to be any objective way of measuring "giftedness" aside from an IQ test, and many who want the forum don't want that.

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The other thread is adversarial IMO because it has a distinctive exclusive ,defensive (I know so so it is so ) and a millitant feel to it (calling for people to be banned) (or people accusing posters of passive agression when asking valid questions was also a big turn off ), some amothers are rude ,but so are some of the posters ,I guess they don't see they intimidate people by being overly reactive themselves .

I proposed that people can ask Yael for a username to be used exclusively for posting this topic If they feel their privacy has been compromised ..... but was ignored Rolling Eyes

In terms of Yael I also have a question into her, but remember, this isn't her job, she is very busy and it sometimes can take time to get back to a person.

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I'm sure by keeping it open as a haven, we would get the imput of some caring educators and/or we would create awareness for them and other parents in case they have not been exposed to kids like our children.

Please dont rip my skin off Wink

I was thinking about this on the bus. Look, I raised my kids without a forum, but I guess some people really feel the need---anyway, I was thinking rather than a safe haven, Seraph's idea of a board really would make more sense. If you all feel that the questions can't go anywhere else, I think they could frankly, but if you feel they can't, then a board might make more sense. Then you could divide the board into different forums: Brag alerts (because a need to be able to brag about one's child's successes was indicated) Social Issues, Educational issues, Family issues (I know sometimes a child who is special ends up with a lot more attention and the other children unintentionally get somewhat neglected.) , Emotioinal Issues, "Twice" gifted. etc.

Anyway, listening to everyone that is my feelings. In each section could be a subsection, such as Educational Issues Underachieving or whatever.