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My aunt just gave birth to boy #7!!
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lkwdmommy




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Jan 28 2014, 12:55 pm
m in Israel wrote:
Well I always heard the line about the boys being "if you have 7 sons you go straight to Gan Eden because you already had your gehenim here on earth. . . Smile "

I have quite a few boys in a row (not 7, though!), and heard this line many times! I always thought it was a joke, though.

It is a joke. Don't worry.

My DH always tells me Re these "segulos": The only way you get Gan Eden is if you deserve it!!
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Emotional




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Jan 28 2014, 12:58 pm
I don't have a problem with it because I know Judaism values a male life and a female life equally.
The laws of being mechallel Shabbos to save a life do not differ when the life in question is a boy/man vs. a girl/woman.
And low alaynu the laws of mourning are the same whether one is mourning a female relative or a male relative.
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amother


 

Post Tue, Jan 28 2014, 1:59 pm
Raisin wrote:
Really? I think that so depends on individual kids. OTD kids seem to be much more often boys. And boys often have a harder time fitting into the yeshiva system.

I think the 7 boys thing has always been irritating to me. Why do we need it rubbed into us again that boys are so much better? Boys get a shalom zachor, a bris, some people make an elaborate vach nacht, a pidyan haben. Girls MIGHT get a kiddush. Me, I am thrilled with whatever Hashem gives me. If Hashem thought boys were so much better, surely He would have created more of them? there are roughly equal amounts of boys and girls in the world,* maybe even slightly more girls. Lets just trust Hashem's actions on this one.

*except in those locations where they have the charming practice of aborting female fetuses.


I have 5 girls and 1 boy bli ayin hora. My 1 boy gives me more stress than all the girls put together. And he's a relatively 'good' boy. (ie. not a vilde chaya).
I'm due very soon, and I would be very happy with another girl. The rest of the family feel differently though...

Anyway - Mazal tov to the OP and her aunt. I agree - gifts for the mother are a great idea!
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amother


 

Post Tue, Jan 28 2014, 3:42 pm
Op here. Thank you all for all idea's, she's not so much the type of mani/pedi, spa day, creams, lotions, etc.(I would love it though) so I think will go for the book, hope she doesn't have it yet. Thanks!
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Rodent




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Jan 28 2014, 7:23 pm
I just recently had my sixth son (we're specialising Tongue Out ). Things definitely don't last through 6 though clothes probably weren't my priority. Anything that saves time whether that be food, cleaning etc is super useful or if it entertains the other kids. To be honest I never get around to reading unless it is work related.
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Ruchel




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Jan 29 2014, 4:23 am
My ds is less aggressive than my dd at the same age. She was very wild at school, and at 18 months she terrorized her 2,4 and6 yr old male cousins. LOL
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Sanguine




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Jan 29 2014, 5:20 am
Two of my boys are consecutive boys and they were always thought of as "Here comes trouble" by the family. People ask me why I didn't put those hose shpritzer pot washers in my sink when we built our house and I always remind them Which 2 boys were 3 and 6 at the time - I could just imagine the two of them standing at opposite sinks and having a water fight across the kitchen with those shpritzers - No Thanks
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chocolate chips




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Jan 29 2014, 6:24 am
Sanguine wrote:
Two of my boys are consecutive boys and they were always thought of as "Here comes trouble" by the family. People ask me why I didn't put those hose shpritzer pot washers in my sink when we built our house and I always remind them Which 2 boys were 3 and 6 at the time - I could just imagine the two of them standing at opposite sinks and having a water fight across the kitchen with those shpritzers - No Thanks
Um I can totally see my sisters and I doing that!! And we are married LOL

that is such an awesome idea Wink now who do I know with such spritzer taps....oh my mil! LOL
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m in Israel




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Jan 29 2014, 6:29 am
Raisin wrote:
Really? I think that so depends on individual kids. OTD kids seem to be much more often boys. And boys often have a harder time fitting into the yeshiva system.

I think the 7 boys thing has always been irritating to me. Why do we need it rubbed into us again that boys are so much better? Boys get a shalom zachor, a bris, some people make an elaborate vach nacht, a pidyan haben. Girls MIGHT get a kiddush. Me, I am thrilled with whatever Hashem gives me. If Hashem thought boys were so much better, surely He would have created more of them? there are roughly equal amounts of boys and girls in the world,* maybe even slightly more girls. Lets just trust Hashem's actions on this one.

*except in those locations where they have the charming practice of aborting female fetuses.


I find this so interesting that you understood this saying as implying boys are better. I always thought it was kind of a put down towards boys. It was always said to me with a knowing, empathetic sigh (and with the second part about the going through gehinom here on earth). I always felt that people felt a little bad for me that I had only boys and this was a kind of "well, at least maybe you'll get the 7 thing and go straight to Olam Habah!"

The funny thing is I really loved my boys and although I was thrilled when my little princess finally arrived, I was totally honest when I said I would also have been fine with another boy.
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IMHopinion




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Jan 29 2014, 7:49 am
Mothers of little boys work from son up to son down LOL LOL LOL
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