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ValleyMom




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, Apr 12 2015, 4:20 pm
Simply say: "No, I am not up for having guests at this time."

PERIOD.

End of sentence.

YOU owe nobody any explanation.

Your home is your sanctuary and clearly you need your privacy (I totally get it), so just memorize the above phrase and practice saying out loud!
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amother
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Post Sun, Apr 12 2015, 5:42 pm
Just have to add this story to the horrors of hosting:
For the first days, my sister wasn't home, but my dd and her dh stayed at her house. DD was leaving s/t on monday. Another couple was taking dd's room after dd left. This couples parent called my sister to ask when her couple can come over. My sister said "I will be home after 2 pm. By then, my niece should have left and they can come." She was asked if they can bring their stuff over earlier and my sister said "No. My niece is in the room now and there is no palce to leave your things right now."

Well, the couple decided to call dd and ask when she is leaving. They also called my niece to bring their stuff over early. My niece said yes as she had not heard what her mother had told them before.

So my dd felt like she was being pushed out. And this couple came early. My sister did tell them off when she got home. She let them stay there, but I doubt she will again. And my sisters house is always open to people.
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amother
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Post Mon, Apr 13 2015, 1:18 am
MamaBear wrote:
Stop having guests that are not your own friends or family. I mean it - just say no and never look back. Why put up with all this?

I didn't get to read all the posts, and honestly I would probably speak up and not tolerate this... Yet this post reminds me a lot about the chasidic tale re the uncouth guest being a nesoyan.. Besht parents maybe? In any case, you surely should not suffer in silence. The yelling was justified, the guys apologized. Maybe your dh should go over some house rules whenever so comes to stay over. U can even print it up and place in guestroom near some roses if u hate confrontation..
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