will not accept any correction at all

amother

Copper

Tue, Dec 22 2015, 3:39 am

Ok I'm posting here because you guys are always so nice and helpful. And kind and non judgmental. I have one high functioning ASD and one undiagnosed probably would be Aspergers if we knew what we were looking at when he was younger. Now I feel that a different Middle boy is driving us all crazy when he won't submit to any form of discipline. Eg if asked go to you room for 10 mins to calm down.... This leads to a total meltdown, kicking, screeching biting, threatening to kill me, himself... He's 9. Most of the time I try to use approaches from The Explosive Child but sometimes with everything else ok my plate I just need to be able to isolate sometime. Like when he I deliberately nigling the older Asperger guy. And at school when given a detention he had also been known to explode or not turn up, leading to worse consequences. Other time he really says he wants to be good boy and doesn't want to follow/copy the bad kids.

Family psychologist who if helping with the ASD kid says she doubts very much that he'd be on the spectrum but could be a candidate for an anxiety disorder in the future. We have no more money for therapy. Want to cry. Sorry just venting I guess. Obviously we are really terrible parents but none of the professionals we deal with think we are bad. They ask say we are good parents (psychologists it's teachers etc). I don't know what she to do . Thanks for listen ing. Hashem yazor. Am crying!

amother

Maroon

Tue, Dec 22 2015, 4:04 am

You are good parents. You are doing your best to help your kids. Sometimes it's just very difficult and issues are not easily solved despite your efforts.

I urge you to find some way to get therapy even though it's difficult financially. At the very least, look for help in books and here.

The kind of child you are describing is extremely challenging to deal with - and I speak from experience. Soon he will be older and bigger and if the behavior isn't changed now it will get worse. Sorry I have to say this - again, I've been through this.

All I can say is don't give up, give yourself a break, daven and hang in there.
Hug