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Post Tue, Jan 26 2016, 9:35 pm
For junior high girls to sit on each others laps?
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amother
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Post Tue, Jan 26 2016, 9:40 pm
It's been a while, but from what I remember it was definitely done. I never ever did because I'm so not a touchy feely type, and I thought it was wierd. Maybe it was just the ''mushy'' type of girls.
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Post Tue, Jan 26 2016, 9:44 pm
I wasn't the mushy type in junior high (or ever) but I wouldn't find it that strange.
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Post Tue, Jan 26 2016, 10:01 pm
I don't think it's mushy, I'm just more the personal space type of person. If it were mushy I'd think strange but if it's just the way they're sitting while hanging around, normal.
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Post Tue, Jan 26 2016, 10:11 pm
normal, whatever. I remember doing that kind of thing sometimes... also linking arms while walking..
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Post Tue, Jan 26 2016, 10:50 pm
Normal
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Post Tue, Jan 26 2016, 11:04 pm
Totally normal.
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amother
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Post Wed, Jan 27 2016, 12:27 am
Weird. No one that old should sit on another's lap.
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naturalmom5




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Jan 27 2016, 12:28 am
Sounds very lesbi- friends to me but I went to PS a LONG time ago so I don't know
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Bruria




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Jan 27 2016, 8:07 am
I think it's normal for some girls to do that, I wouldn't worry.
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Post Wed, Jan 27 2016, 8:21 am
Normal.
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amother
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Post Wed, Jan 27 2016, 9:17 am
amother wrote:
Weird. No one that old should sit on another's lap.


Why do I deserve a hug? In my circles now and when growing up, it was weird.
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Lady Godiva




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Jan 27 2016, 9:25 am
Very normal if there are no other seats around and it's a whole group of kids hanging out--not just the two of them alone.
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Post Wed, Jan 27 2016, 9:29 am
Lady Godiva wrote:
Very normal if there are no other seats around and it's a whole group of kids hanging out--not just the two of them alone.


Was gonna say the same thing. I've seen it where everyone is crowding onto one bench, or a few chairs for a whole group....the first ones to get there sit, and the rest go right on top of them.

In camp situations, my campers were always plopping down on me. I had 5th graders and 7th graders. It was fine and normal.
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Ruchel




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Jan 27 2016, 10:56 am
Wasn't normal in my world.
In more charei environment I've seen it even among high school boys.
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Post Wed, Jan 27 2016, 4:23 pm
It's a cultural thing. Different cultures have different standards of "personal space". It doesn't have to mean that it's a zexual attraction, it could just mean a warm, trusting friendship.

In American public school, you only really saw that among middle eastern girls. When we moved to Israel, DD made friends with a girl who is very mushy, always hugging her and linking arms. DD thought it was weird at first, but now she realizes that it's just another way of saying "I like hanging out with you" and it doesn't bother her at all. DD finds it very innocent and sweet.

I used to have a BFF who was Latina, and she was very cuddly. Nothing zexual at all. We were both single, and it was nice to sit close to each other and watch a movie, without worrying "Will she think I'm hitting on her?"

IMHO, we live in such a zexually charged culture, that we are worried about ulterior motives all the time, and have forgotten the innocence of the comfort of another human being.
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amother
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Post Wed, Jan 27 2016, 9:06 pm
Dd and friends all did this-- goofy puppy dog type stuff.
Anon because dd and friends always describe themselves this way
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Post Thu, Jan 28 2016, 7:13 pm
Thanks everyone! This girl had plenty of space to sit but I guess it is normal.

I teach a number of classes and when I first saw this I approached the girl and said she shouldn't sit like that. She looked at me strange and asked why? I said everyone needs their own personal space.

The same thing happened with another girl and this time I didn't say anything. I guess in this school it's considered normal.

I appreciate your input!
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