Chanukah gift for myself

ra_mom

Tue, Dec 27 2016, 6:28 pm

amother wrote:

Jewelry-of course a woman can always have more jewelry but I feel like that's not what I wish for right now.

Perfume-I'm not a perfume person, and even if I wanted to try some I would never spend that much on it

Scarf, sweater, hand bag-same-wouldn't spend that much on it.

something for the house-yes that definitely speak to me but what???

massage and facial would be so cool. Never got any of those. But it's from my husband and he wants me to get something tangible Smile

I was thinking along the lines of something for our bedroom like a mini bedroom makeover? Like curtains, bed skirts (which we don't have), a new lamp (current one is broken). That would be nice.

Another idea is just use the money for women's accessories like new gloves and things like that (which I need, lol), but again I don't see how I would use $300 worth of that kind of thing.

Or maybe towards new shoes and/or boots which I need. But that seems like a weird gift to me-here are shoes?? I mean if I really need shoes I would buy shoes without it being a gift, really...

I'm eyeing this expensive pot that's like $50 but he feels like that's not a gift either-a pot?!

Lol are we hopeless??

Go with the bedroom mini makeover. I'd be thrilled with a new set of linen or any of the other items you mentioned.

Or with the accessories for yourself... But make them count. A beautiful pair of feminine warm leather gloves with touch screen technology. Along with a fur neck scarf. And delicious boots. You'll feel like a million bucks all winter long and you'll enjoy it all everyday (as will your dh when he sees you in them).

zaq

Tue, Dec 27 2016, 9:44 pm

It seems to me that if you have to ask total strangers for gift suggestions for yourself, you don't really want anything at all and are looking for people to plant an utterly unnecessary idea in your mind. That's what advertising does, btw--create a desire to acquire something where no desire existed. Do yourself a favor, ignore what other people suggested unless you want your dh to buy gifts for THEM. Look at the list of things YOU thought of that your dh rejected, and then ask him honestly: do you want to please me or do you want to make yourself look like a gvir? Because if it's the former, then you will get me one or more of the humble everyday things I asked for , because I really want them and they will please me. Otoh if you want to make yourself look like a big shot big spender, by all means buy something fancy that I don't need or want but that will impress other people. But then don't say it's a gift for me because it will really be a gift for your ego.

MagentaYenta

Tue, Dec 27 2016, 10:08 pm

zaq wrote:

Bravo.

I'm usually saddened when someone wants to know what kind of a present to buy their husband. It's like the poster is shouting, "I don't know the man I married".

allthingsblue

Wed, Dec 28 2016, 7:58 am

MagentaYenta wrote:

Bravo.

I'm usually saddened when someone wants to know what kind of a present to buy their husband. It's like the poster is shouting, "I don't know the man I married".

Off topic. But not in my case (and I'm sure many women)! My husband is just the type who buys whatever he needs/really wants. And he's very specific, for example he wouldn't want just ANY tool set or any wallet, but a specific brand, make etc, and I just don't know from these things. Since I don't want our money to be wasted, we have a deal going- he buys me gifts (because I'm not picky and he has good taste) and I don't really buy him gifts but I'll say, "use that money to buy xxx that you really want."

glamourmom

Wed, Dec 28 2016, 9:09 am

MagentaYenta wrote:

Bravo.

I'm usually saddened when someone wants to know what kind of a present to buy their husband. It's like the poster is shouting, "I don't know the man I married".

or.... we're seeking help because buying gifts for a guy is so much harder than buying for a woman.