3 year old still doesn't sleep through night

11best

Wed, Jan 04 2017, 3:57 am

Hi I basically feel like I have a newborn now! I have a 18 month old who gets up once for bottle. She's great BH. But embarrassed

I get up to my 3 year old girl every 3 yours . I tried everything w her nothing helps. Every time its something else. I wana sleep w u. Or come cover me. Or shimon (my son) woke me ( he's in dreamland then) and so on... Any ideas to make her sleep well?

amother

Lawngreen

Wed, Jan 04 2017, 4:21 am

If she is warm enough, not hungry, in a dark room and not worried about wetting the bed, just put her back and remind her that night is for resting. Don't tell her to sleep or she'll get anxious that she can't fall asleep. A lot of parents leave on a night light so kids won't be scared, but sometimes it just keeps them awake.

11best

Wed, Jan 04 2017, 5:44 am

She's not worried about getting wet and she has light on. When she would come in quietly I wouldn't mind so much. But whatever I tell her she starts stamping her foot and crying. I pity neighbors

saw50st8

Wed, Jan 04 2017, 7:50 am

Maybe get a sleep study done and see why she is waking so frequently?

Otherwise, escort her back to bed quietly and go back to your own bed. Keep doing it every time. If you aren't giving her anything, she should stop.

11best

Wed, Jan 04 2017, 8:35 am

Haha this night when she came into my bed I made myself that I'm sleeping. I started rolling onto her like I need the space , and bed to small for both of us.she jumped of and told me to take her back to her bed.

pesek zman

Wed, Jan 04 2017, 8:37 am

I'm troubled by the 18 month old getting a bottle in middle of the night. A child that age should be sleeping through the night (except of course during an acute episode like illness, teething, etc) I only mention it because I think good sleep hygiene starts young (in infancy actually) and I worry that the 18 month old is heading down the path that your 3 year old is on. It needs to be reinforced across the board that nighttime is for sleeping, period, the end

Blessing1

Wed, Jan 04 2017, 8:43 am

All I can give you is hugs, as im also still waking up to my 3 year old. There's nothing you can do, some kids are just like that. Pesak zman, it's totally normal for an 18 month old to wake up for a bottle!

pesek zman

Wed, Jan 04 2017, 9:31 am

Blessing1 wrote:

It's really not. That may be your experience, but it's not normal.

happy1234

Wed, Jan 04 2017, 12:12 pm

pesek zman wrote:

It's really not. That may be your experience, but it's not normal.

I agree with you 100%. At 18 months, the baby shouldn't be taking a bottle. I stop the bottles when the baby turns one and transition to sippy cups with a straw.
I would let the baby cry and not give the 18 month old a bottle. It just gives the baby a reinforce to wake up every night.

My 2 year old wakes up in middle of the night but its not to eat. He wants to sleep with me. Im spoiling him by taking him to my bed but I'm too tired to hear him cry (I work full time) and he'll wake the other kids. He goes right back to sleep in my bed.

For your 3 year old, I would just lock your bedroom door and ignore him.
Eventually I plan to do that with my son so that hell learn.
Good luck!

Volunteer

Wed, Jan 04 2017, 12:28 pm

It seems like all parents claim that their little angels sleep soundly through the night from infancy. Those of us who have kids that wake up are made to feel as if we're doing it all wrong. The dirty little secret is that according to cross cultural studies, about half of young children ages 2- 5 wake up at least once during the night. Yup. Our culture has pathologized night waking for adults too
(it is very common among people over 60). The notion that your child absolutely must be completely independent for half the day is a myth (or hope).
Not that there's nothing you can do to help your child get herself back to sleep more often when she does awaken. Other posters had some ideas.