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Lawngreen
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 Thu, Jan 12 2017, 2:47 pm
My oldest son is away in yeshiva. He is bH a wonderful, erlich boy. We have one issue that we've been dealing with that needs improvement. He has a hard time getting up in the morning (I know this is very common...). We were very hesitant to send him to Eretz Y. for this very reason. However, we did because we knew it was the correct thing to do. We did have long discussions and he promised he will be very makpid on this issue. Well, 2 months later, we've heard feedback that he does not get up on time and always comes late to shiur. He;s 17 and those days of speeches are over. I don't want to hurt him but I do need to reiterate the repercussions of not being makpid on shmiras hazmanim.
Anyone going through this and have suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
(FTR, we are chassidish- if it matters...)
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Thu, Jan 12 2017, 4:27 pm
Umm, he's, like 5000 miles away, adult enough to be away from home, (and probably, if chassidish, almost old enough to marry), and you still want to "reiterate the repercussions of not being makpid...." ?
Be grateful he's not on drugs, and cut the apron strings. It's his life, honestly. Let him learn personal responsibility on his own. Everyone has defects, being late is just one of the many. Let him decide what character traits he wants to work on. Understand why this is bothering you, leave him to go on his own process of life and work on your own character defects. We all have some, it's a life long process.
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Thu, Jan 12 2017, 5:19 pm
I second that! He's a big boy now and not in any physical danger. Give him the space to make his own decisions. If the Yeshiva has an issue with his lateness, it's their job to put natural consequences in place. Not yours. This will be good practice for you for when he gets married and you don't like all his decisions either lol 
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