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I feel like such a bad mother- I want to change!
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Post Fri, Feb 10 2017, 6:44 am
amother wrote:
1. BC, long term even if not accepted in your community.

2. You need parenting classes and parenting books.

3.try to keep calm. If you see yourself getting agitated, go hide out in the bathroom! Calm down there for a few minutes.
Do that even 5 times per afternoon. Better than yelling.

4. For every yelling or criticism, you must match it with a compliment, hug, or kiss to that child immediately.


Signed,
A mom who used to be a nervous wreck and came a looong way.


Best advice. Parenting books or classes can give a lot. Little tips that one wouldn't think of.
And lots of complements.
Amazing but simple advice.
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Post Fri, Feb 10 2017, 8:04 am
Get some really good books on discipline.

I strongly recommend the book 1-2-3 magic. It's amazing. We even use it for no whining.

I also recommend trying to get yoru hands on a copy of the the Miriam Adahan Handbook: Living with Children, Parents at our Best. In particular, the 'hold my hands, look into my eyes, and tell me exactly what you want" does wonders for kvetchy children.
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Post Fri, Feb 10 2017, 8:10 am
greenfire wrote:
they sound like they need time to unwind from a long day away from home ... do some inviting routines

kiss them & help them put away their coats & backpacks
have a snack ready for them - they are starving

give one child a toy activity or watching little one while the other child gets assigned a job to help in the kitchen - then switch turns ... each getting a star on an activity chart to earn rewards on sunday

make sure to also give yourself some "me" time ... works better for family time when mom is recharged

good luck !!!


This. When kids are hungry, they are kvetchy, although they cant figure out why they are. Have something filling for them to eat as soon as they get home.

ETA: I see you said you feed them when they get home. Are they happy in school?
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