Need Reassurance-my son has a microp*nis

amother

Wed, Jun 23 2010, 6:25 pm

My 2 year old was born like this and I'm embarrassed to ask the doctor anything about it, he never mentioned it to me, but I saw it written on his medical chart.
Can someone enlighten me on how this will affect his life, his intimacy, and especially his ability to have children?
Anyone else in this situation I'd love to hear, and please please share anything you know about this.
Thanks so much!

life'sgreat

Wed, Jun 23 2010, 7:18 pm

I know you know this but there is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. Whatsoever. This is what they deal with all the time. It's almost as if you're saying that you're embarrassed to discuss the blister on your son's nose. It's a body part and especially for a doctor, is normal to talk about.

Not talking about it because of embarrassment might affect your son for life in some way. Is the shame more important? There could be more than one reason as to why this is the case, but it's definitely something you need to work on. Is it just his p@nis or also his testicles that are the issue? Or is it the testicles and not the p@nis at all? Because if it's the testicles, it might be that one or both testicles are undescended and not correcting it can be a cause for major fertility issues later on in life. Some can never have children if it isn't taken care of at a young age (before they hit puberty).

Please man up and do what you need to do as a mother.

amother

Wed, Jun 23 2010, 9:18 pm

Thanks both of you for your advice. I guess I will have to ask him about it at the next well-visit (in 6 weeks time). Although I assumed that if it would be an issue he would tell me and refer to an endocronoligist or urologist, but I guess when it comes to my sons health I should be proactive vs. reactive. It won't be easy, but I must do what I must do! Sigh!

Is there anyone out there that knows someone with this - or am I one in a million?

manhattanmom

Wed, Jun 23 2010, 9:26 pm

amother wrote:

If it's really bothering you--and/or is something of concern, why must you wait for your next well visit in 6 weeks? Is your doctor accessible by phone--I know this is not an emergency--but you should be able to leave a message as a concerned parent/patient and you should get a phone call returned.

amother

Wed, Jun 23 2010, 9:38 pm

This isnt something that 6 weeks time will make a difference at all. This is nothing new and is known for the last few years. Just every now and then it makes me worry, and I was curious if anyone out there is familiar with this and how they treated it.

mommy7

Thu, Jun 24 2010, 12:13 am

I can relate:

When I started changing my son's diaper, I almost flipped! Forget about MICRO there was NO-CRO. Seriously. It had disappeared.

Had the moihel been a little too enthusiastic? I called my husband. We both stood there staring at my poor son like we expected it to regrow or something.

Anyway, I had a dr.'s appointment that day, I held my breath when the dr took off the diaper. The dr pushed a secret button and boing! There it was. No, really he just pushed in the fat around it and it sort of poked back out. I buried my embarrassment and asked him point blank what on earth was going on in that diaper.

Apparently my son is not alone. I don't know if they call it peekaboo p@nis or turtle syndrome or whatever, but he's fine, just very tzniusdik, I guess. I did have to live through three of the most anxious hours of my life until I got to the dr. So you should speak to your dr., hopefully you'll find out it's just a fancy name for a syndrome that means everything is perfectly fine with your little boy.

amother

Thu, Jun 24 2010, 12:39 am

There are two forms of treatment effective in the early years: shots and creams. They are only effective in the first few years, and shots are more effective than creams (many boys only need 1 shot, some need one every few months). I think there' s some sort of hornome in those shots. Ask your doctor asap before your child is too old. I know some people who had their sons get shots and it helped tremendously.

life'sgreat

Thu, Jun 24 2010, 1:07 am

amother wrote:

Depending on his age, six weeks can make a difference. Again, not sure exactly what/where the issue is, but if it does require surgery, age makes a big difference.

life'sgreat

Thu, Jun 24 2010, 1:16 am

amother wrote:

No, pedis do sometimes overlook issues. I know someone that had surgery for undescended testicles only because the mom decided to ask at the age of 6. The doctor never breathed a word about it.

amother

Mon, Jun 28 2010, 11:42 pm

A good pediatrician should have pointed this out to you at birth, and sent you immediately to an endocrinologist. This is not simply a small size, this is micro, tiny, and it is a medical condition for which treatment must be sought immediately. I am shocked that this boy is 2, and I hope it is not too late to get the desired results.
There are many treatments available. You need to educate yourself, google everything.
They begin as an infant, and go on before and after puberty. There is surgery for undescended testicles that must be brought down by a certain age. This needs to be determined by a good specialist.
There is definitely growth hormone given, throughout the teen years by shots, and then by shots or patches as they grow older, to assure a normal size and normal function. Testing for fertility can only be done when much older. Believe me this is not one in a million, I am living through this, and still wish there was someone or some support group I could speak to about this. There are not that many of us, but there are plenty.
It is not so simple, and gets more and more complicated. It is only the beginning of a long road ahead.
I send you hugs and my heartfelt warm wishes for success.

amother

Mon, Jul 05 2010, 12:39 pm

To the OP above: Accordign to what I read online, micropen*s is usually just that-small, if not associated with another medical condition. It is just small in size, and can still function as normal. And us being Jewish, I don't think size is that much of an issue just as long as it functions properly?? correct me if I'm wrong.
After I will check this with my doctor, and if he needs meds I would love to discuss your journey with you. I will give you my e-mail address and maybe you can create a new one so we can hook up? I'd love to speak with someone going through the same thing. Thanks so much!

amother

Mon, Jul 05 2010, 12:55 pm

amother wrote:

l. And us being Jewish, I don't think size is that much of an issue just as long as it functions properly?? correct me if I'm wrong.
!

Let's say we're not Jewish... how does the issue of size differ for us vs. for Jews? shock

amother

Mon, Jul 05 2010, 1:08 pm

It makes all the difference. In non-jews its all about appearance and what makes them a 'man'. And if someones is micro, it would make them feel inferior,especially in the s*x area.
But in Jews its main purpose is in conceiving a child, and a wife can be happy if its small, its not like size is the main thing in our world at all.

DefyGravity

Mon, Jul 05 2010, 1:16 pm

I wouldn't assume that all Jewish women wouldn't care about something like this. Frum people obviously DO care about receiving pleasure from one another and something like this should be disclosed if it's going to have an affect on one's intimacy. I'm sure the amothers in this thread will get their sons the medical help they need and they'll be fine!

amother

Mon, Jul 05 2010, 1:59 pm

amother wrote:

It makes all the differen ce.In non-jews its all about appearance and what makes them a 'man'. And if someones is micro, it would make them feel inferior,especially in the s*x area.
But in Jews its main purpose is in conceiving a child, and a wife can be happy if its small, its not like size is the main thing in our world at all.

This, in a nutshell, is ignorant and cruel. I cannot stand that people on this site think they know it all when it comes to non Jews (that's Jews, with a capital J). Based on the state of Yiddishkeit today, I'd say Judaism is more about appearance than any other organized religion in the world, bar none. Please, get educated. On men and their bodies. On non jews and their being totally human. On Jews not always being G-d's gift to humanity.
I read your words and weep for how little some Jews know about the real world. Sad

Oh, and about themselves as well.
I am sorry OP for sidetracking your post. With Hashem's help, your son will be fine.

amother

Mon, Jul 05 2010, 3:09 pm

Excuse me, to the amother above!! I think it is you who should do a bit more research!!
Someone w/ a micropen*s can still have regular s*x and can totally please their spouse! It is just that by the non jews it is all about size and the bigger the better. Since when is that the way of Jewish life?? Not to mention, since when is that a deal-breaker??
And to quote you 'people think they know e/th' well, SURPISE, you obviously don't. If you do a bit more research you will see that in the non jewish world males born like this will many times remove it altogether and become females because with something so small they can't be manly. So there!