So we have a couple of bochurim for a Shabbos seudah, & we're discussing how my husband manages without a cell phone (just fine, actually, it's more how do I manage?) And I tell them he does have a pager, and I can page him, for example, if he's in the store & I forgot to ask him to pick up milk, I page him
8 = Ches 30= Lamed 2= Bais = Chalav. He usually gets it just fine, except once before Purim when I needed jam for hamentaschen & I put in gimmel mem, and he bought GUM, which we never ever buy!
So the bochur says (sort of to me, so I don't think the rest of the people at the table heard), oh, like you can put in 613, it's mitzvah time.
Okay, ladies. What is your reaction? Am I seeing a double entendre where none was meant?
I just thought maybe my husband should know since he has some educational responsibility for this bochur. More than just totally inappropriate anywhere, but at your rebbe's Shabbos table? To your rebbe's wife? C'mon. Either the guy has a screw loose or is so clueless that he has no idea what is appropriate... Or we should worry that he's watching/selling [filth] in the dorm?
Should I explain for those who don't get it or not spoil it for those who will get it eventually?
So far everyone who gets it thinks I'm right.
I had to explain it to DH.
So, SPOILER ALERT:
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If you went to an MO school, you knew that Friday night is "Mitzvah Night" - referring to mitzvas onah. I doubt anyone from a more right wing school would get that reference, which is why DH was and really didn't believe me when I asked him if he thinks that's what the guy meant.
How old is he? Because teenagers sometimes say stupid things that come to their mind, and I'm sure that if he thought about it as an adult he would want to kick himself for letting that out of his mouth. Your conversation with him allowed him into a personal part of your life (messages you send your husband), so he probably just said the stupid thing that came into his mind.
He was trying to be funny, but was inappropriate. Just let it go.
On a side note, get your husband a cell phone for his birthday!
Wow, a bucher who probably doesn't know you even so well to say that to you. Sure that's a right thing to say. I hope he made a mistake and thought he's talking to his friend, which is somewhat different
Wow, a bucher who probably doesn't know you even so well to say that to you. Sure that's a right thing to say. I hope he made a mistake and thought he's talking to his friend, which is somewhat different
Just another stupid teenager saying what stupid teenagers say. Of course that's all he has on his mind. It's what all teenage boys (and girls too) have on their minds. Ignore it. He'll think you just didn't get what he was talking about.
As a mother of a boy in yeshiva who has his social issues (not that I think my DS would EVER say something like that to his rebbe's wife!!), I would want your DH to talk to him.
It is a good opportunity for him to learn something, both directly, from the mussar shmooze, and indirectly, from realizing by his own discomfort in the subject being raised, how uncomfortable it would be for another. Less refined boys may say such things to each other, but never ever blurt what he did. I think he should have the opportunity to grow from it.
people say stupid things all the time - there is no reason to embarrass him further as he's probably already kicking himself from the time it popped out of his mouth - let it go ...
We don't know that. And unless he learns from his mistake, he may repeat it in a more costly situation, like a job interview, or a shidduch date.
Hindsight is 20-20, but any time anyone says something inappropriate to you, I think the best response is, "EXCUSE ME?", and a cold stare. Right in the moment.