Do Chossidish ladies say AMEN to yeshivish brachos?

Chayalle

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 12:44 pm

checkbefore wrote:

Most likely she is embarrassed to say amen in her chassidish havara, so she just says thank you in english.

Seriously? shock

Why?

BlueRose52

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 12:55 pm

Why does it matter if she says amein, or umein, or "thank you", or "that's such a nice thing to say"?

It's very nice of you to wish them well, but do you think the words they pronounce in reply to your expression of good will actually has any affect on anything?

zaq

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 1:02 pm

BlueRose52 wrote:

The poster who said that saying Amen converts the bracha from a state of potential to a state of action believes that it does.

sourstix

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 1:27 pm

yeh I will echo what others say, is this a joke? common what are you thinking? they come from mars?

KollelWife3

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 1:55 pm

checkbefore wrote:

Most likely she is embarrassed to say amen in her chassidish havara, so she just says thank you in english.

I hope you're joking.

I'm biting back my comment, because it isn't pretty.

checkbefore

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 2:44 pm

No I'm not joking kollelwife. I know many chassidish people who will try to avoid using Hebrew words because they are embarrassed.
Comment away.

yogabird

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 2:45 pm

checkbefore wrote:

No I'm not joking kollelwife. I know many chassidish people who will try to avoid using Hebrew words because they are embarrassed.
Comment away.

fully agree

Maya

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 2:53 pm

yogabird wrote:

fully agree

Me too. Happened to me when I moved to Monsey. I don't know why, but I thought people wouldn't understand what I was saying.

KollelWife3

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 2:54 pm

I guess I mingle with very different people.

Embarrassed? Of a dialect? Really?

Ever saw a sfardi embarrassed to say chatan instead of chassan?

Am I missing something here?

amother

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 3:01 pm

imasoftov wrote:

I'm MO, and to me, a bracha starts "baruch atah hashem ..." (and comes from a siddur etc., don't go making up your own), and if I hear one of those, I'll say amen. If someone wishes me well, I say "thank you", this does not depend on the affiliation of who said it.

I'm chassidish and totally agree with this!

sourstix

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 3:05 pm

op I am chasidish and I must say this is making me laugh, not to make you feel silly cause thats not my intention, bec its bizzare, I never came across somthing like this. I would answer amein to anyone, I dont care what you look like or how you say it. it sounds like a joke, dont take it seriously, noone ment you. it must be those few or just one woman.

imasoftov

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 3:51 pm

Chayalle wrote:

You should also say Amen. Read all the "Amen" books - saying Amen actualizes the Beracha from Koach to Poal.

I told you what I do, not what you should.

Brownies

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 3:59 pm

KollelWife3 wrote:

Ever saw a sfardi embarrassed to say chatan instead of chassan?

Unfortunately, yes. Sad, I agree.

rosebunch

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 5:33 pm

I picked up on it too. I've heard many women say thank you when receiving a bracha from a well wisher at a simcha. I think it's pure ignorance, not realizing the value of every person's berachos.

amother

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 6:05 pm

I'm chassidish and we are taught from early on not to say amen to a litvish, yekkish and of course not, MO Bracha. They reminded us of this on a daily basis and it's the root of our education.

Seriously??????

Mama Bear

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 6:50 pm

as someone said upthread, it's probably a kneejerk reaction to English.

amother

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 7:21 pm

I'm chassidish and my Kallah teacher taught me to answer umein when people wish me mazel tov at my wedding. Up until then I always sed thank you. When my chassidish friend got divorced I wished her mazel tov and she was like oh come on! I told her to answer umein since I'm just giving her a bracha for good luck.
Comes from total ignorance. Doesn't matter whom the bracha comes from.

mommy321

Tue, Feb 17 2015, 1:39 am

Cookie Monster wrote:

I have to say that this emoticon gets me EVERY time. Thanks for the chuckle!

amother

Tue, Feb 17 2015, 1:42 am

Do they have a better language chinuch? Like, if we're speaking English, lets only speak English?
If so, they could still say 'may it be so'...right?