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She doesn't like being told to do something
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Post Tue, Jun 23 2015, 12:16 pm
social stories and a self checklist of what has to get done. my dd doesn't to be told what to do also ds.
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Post Wed, Jun 24 2015, 7:59 pm
Today I walked into the kitchen and saw she accidentally squirted ketchup on the table and floor and chair. I handed her a napkin and instead of saying "please wipe it up" I said "I notice there's three spots with ketchup on them that need to be cleaned. Can I trust you to be responsible and take care of it?"

And...and...not only did she say okay in a small, serious voice, but two minutes later, she asked for three napkins (one for each spot) and then she ACTUALLY did it.

shock LOL shock
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Post Wed, Jun 24 2015, 9:16 pm
Yay! I love hearing these success stories. Imamother nachas.

Now the only thing is remembering to reprogram your phrasing more of the time. That's the part that always gets me.
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Post Wed, Jun 24 2015, 9:31 pm
Firstly thank you fox!!
I have a 6 yo dd who is like this and thinking about her as a teen can set me on the verge of a panic attack. So thank you for the reassurance!!
I really like the tips given. I'm just curious how it plays out with your other children?
I know my dd loves being in charge, but other kids don't always like being bossed around by her.
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amother
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Post Wed, Jun 24 2015, 9:53 pm
I remember feeling this way as a child. I don't remember throwing tantrums but I definitely didn't like being told what to do. I gained a reputation far and wide for being a smart aleck. Unfortunately my parents aren't as smart as you ladies. I was emotionally abused as a result and my parents never stopped trying to break me. They succeeded even though they didn't know it. I came into marriage thinking I was worthless, invisible, and bad. I have since done a lot of self work and my self image has improved a lot. I still have a hard time with following rules. I get pleasure in breaking them when no one is looking even silly rules. Every time my daughter asserts herself is another opportunity to break the cycle and be a better parent.
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