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malky800

Mon, Aug 31 2015, 7:22 am

My baby doesn't take a pacifier and at the beginning it was so nice to not have to shlep it around.
Now he is 10 months and it's the hardest thing I have to deal with him.
He does not have any way to comfort himself besides me.
He takes bottles and that's the only way he can fall asleep or back asleep.
When he wakes up in middle of the night, even from noise. He just can't fall back asleep. So I keep a stash of bottles near his bed, but I'm finding he drinks more the whole night almost than in the day.
I'm trying to let him scream but it's harder at night and at the half hour mark in give up.
Any ideas from people who overcame this?

amother

Black

Mon, Aug 31 2015, 7:34 am

What's in the bottles? If it's milk you should stop giving him at night.

malky800

Mon, Aug 31 2015, 7:42 am

I'm trying to stop the bottles. What else should I do?force him to take a pacifier.
It's been 1 hr and he is still crying. I've rocked him, sang, patted, put on music
He is not giving up easily.

amother

Hotpink

Mon, Aug 31 2015, 7:45 am

Music. I am out spoken against using pacifiers and food to sooth children. I used music.

pesek zman

Mon, Aug 31 2015, 8:12 am

Sounds like something else is going on. Teething? There has to be a reason he's crying for an hour. Babies at that age are most definitely capable of soothing themself, even without a paci

I never gave a paci. I don't beleive in them. When mine is fussy or crying for extended period of time I figure out why. Bored? Over stimulated? Restless? Tired? Hungry? Teething? Try and think about what might be going on with him

myname1

Mon, Aug 31 2015, 9:11 am

I have the same issue with my baby who just turned 1. I keep saying next baby we are strongly encouraging to take a paci. Mine will also fall asleep being rocked in the stroller though- we typically nurse to sleep at night and rock for naps. And sometimes if he's too overtired and/or too stuffed to nurse to sleep at night, going outside in the stroller has worked. Sometimes recently he's also just stopped nursing, rolled on me in different positions, and eventually fallen asleep that way, so it seems like he is somewhat maturing on his own in that respect, which is a big relief. But yeah, it's really hard for him to get comfortable and "self-soothe". Have you done anything different for naps that might work at night? Middle of the night I also nurse back to sleep usually, so I can't help you there. But he's also recently been rolling over and falling back asleep on his own sometimes lately, so once again, he really does seem to be iy"H growing out of this issue.

miami85

Mon, Aug 31 2015, 9:34 am

Through 3 kids of my own and an experienced aunt and babysitter. Humans are all unique individuals with different methods of self-soothing--and some people are just bad at it. My first 2 kids hardly took a pacifier--one for like 2 months and the other not at all. My 3rd has liked it until now ( she's 6 months), but she's giving it up. Some kids take them, some don't.

With regard to the bottle at night. I heard a Behavioral specialist say that its not the milk-bottle at night that causes bottle rot, its' something else--I think something genetic but I don't remember what he said. My older kids it worked and their teeth are fine.

For some kids its just that they DON'T like going to sleep and they protest--as an adult I don't like going to sleep (though I acknowledge its necessity) sometimes its you have to let them figure it out. Sometimes you have to help it along. Music is a great idea.

malky800

Tue, Sep 08 2015, 7:54 am

It's been 1 week of trying to train him to fall back asleep in middle of the night without a bottle and I've gotten nowhere.
All I have to show for it is after 2 hrs that's my breaking point and I give him a bottle.
And in have not slept decently in a week.
I feel like giving up,

amother

Denim

Tue, Sep 08 2015, 4:21 pm

Can you get a bottle top without a hole that is like his bottle? I think its called a blind nipple.
Would that give hime the equivalent sucking comfort without actually drinking if it's not the liquid he's wanting?

MMCH

Tue, Sep 08 2015, 8:34 pm

unless you want your baby to keep drinking milk bottles throughout the night (which I wouldn't if I were you) your going to have to train your baby to sleep without it.
Give him a soft cozy blanket, a stuffed animal, let him have something else that he must have in bed.

good luck. its tough.

malky800

Tue, Sep 08 2015, 10:47 pm

I think I see a tooth coming out now.each time I decide to try, another tooth comes out

pesek zman

Wed, Sep 09 2015, 1:05 am

Well then teething is the issue and a pacifier won't fix it! Try Tylenol and hope this round of teething passes quickky

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