Well known Rebbitzen in B'klyn loves Lashon Hara.

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amother

Fri, Jul 20 2007, 3:21 pm

There's a very well known Rebbitzen in Brooklyn, who had a daughter in my daughter's class, who confided in my daughter and other classmates, that her mother is very controlling and difficult. This very same Rebbitzen has a married daughter that wasn't on talking terms with her for a year.

Now this Rebbitzen is telling people (more than one, so it's definite) that ask her about s/o that this s/o is "difficult" and has a daughter that doesn't get along with her (which might have been true at one point, but no longer true). I find this very humorous.

The pot calling the kettle black?

This Rebbitzen says her Minyan isn't frum enough, they're too fancy, they don't treat her with respect, they don't offer her enough help or money, and has other various complaints about her Shul's Daveners.

Her highly revered husband is the most aidel and mentshlich person though.

When this Rebbitzen was approached, she replied "It's not my Lashon, Chas V'Shalom" and denies ever saying anything about the s/o.

Can anything be done about this Rebbitzen that is overloaded with Lashon Hara, and is hurting people's reputations?

southernbubby

Fri, Jul 20 2007, 4:29 pm

I have seen this happen before and those who were hurt had to access damage control. Firstly, they had to avoid giving her information. Second, they had to consider the source when she told them anything. Third was that they had to warn others not to share private information with her. Eventually she lost the "power" that she had over people.

chocolate moose

Fri, Jul 20 2007, 5:01 pm

That's people, for ya.

faigie

Fri, Jul 20 2007, 5:24 pm

my mother has a saying.. the oil always comes to the top of the water.
word will get around, if it hasnt already, that said reb. has serious issues. I wouldnt worry about it.

amother

Fri, Jul 20 2007, 6:10 pm

To the outside world, she's a Tehillim-toting Tzadekes.

It's sad and funny.

When she gets comfortable with you, after years of knowing you, she badmouths others to you and you to others.

greenfire

Fri, Jul 20 2007, 8:02 pm

so in other words ... she is not really a rebbetzin ...

chocolate moose

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 11:53 am

that word doesn't really mean anything.

greenfire

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 11:55 am

yes - that would be the point here ...

amother

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 12:02 pm

I'm curious if there are others here that feel they might know the above described Rebbitzen, after having a similar personal experience with her. 8)

mumoo

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 1:21 pm

why, so then we can all speak lashon hora about her?

Mrs. XYZ

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 1:37 pm

was gonna say the same thing!

amother

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 2:04 pm

Not all Rebbetzins are actually Rebetzins. One Rebetzin has hurt me close to 20 years ago. She actually stole money from me..(Of course she had several different excuses.) Besides Lying and doing other stuff. I am just too embarrassed to say anything she is like 35 years older then me.

greenfire

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 2:09 pm

chances are if a person has a behavior issue ... they carry it with their persona ... so ... why compare issues ... also ... let it go ... it's about her and not you ... learn to be better for yourself - despite others ...

Ruchel

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 2:13 pm

a rabbanit/rebbetzin is just the wife of a rabbi/rebbe.

mumoo

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 5:26 pm

I think a rabbi's wife earns her title much as a Rov is not merely a rabbi

greenfire

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 5:29 pm

isn't that only if she is an active rebbetzin ... not just a wife ...

Ruchel

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 5:30 pm

greenfire wrote:

isn't that only if she is an active rebbetzin ... not just a wife ...

nope, the titles comes "naturally"

Blossom

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 5:32 pm

Quote:

a rabbanit/rebbetzin is just the wife of a rabbi/rebbe.

Oh and in many instances I've concluded that the Rav or Rabbi deserves his title only because of his wife, becayse he's the Rabbanit's or Rebbetzin's husband, if you know what I mean.

Last edited by Blossom on Sun, Jul 22 2007, 5:34 pm; edited 1 time in total

Ruchel

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 5:33 pm

Blossom wrote:

Quote:

a rabbanit/rebbetzin is just the wife of a rabbi/rebbe.

Oh and in many instances I've concluded that the Rav or Rabbi deserves his title only because of his wife, if you know what I mean.

because she supported the family during the rabbinical studies?

Blossom

Sun, Jul 22 2007, 5:35 pm

It's because she's worthy of being called Rebbetzin/Rabbanit, while he's really not.

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