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bcimhappy

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 12:22 am

I think I know the answer to this...
But is it appropriate to bring a baby on a funeral?
I haven't seen this girl in years, since we were in grade school and she died in a tragic accident. I have no where to leave my (exclusively breast fed ) 4 month old baby.
I don't think it is but bh I haven't been to too many funerals so I don't know what is the norm.
Just so sad about it all

notshanarishona

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 12:24 am

No! Get a bbysitter or dont go.

bcimhappy

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 12:26 am

That's what I assumed. Thanks

momx6

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 12:29 am

bcimhappy wrote:

That's what I assumed. Thanks

I would go. The baby will probably sleep anyways. Just stay in the back or near the door. This is assuming you are very close to her.

agreer

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 12:37 am

no, you shouldn't go with the baby.

the funeral is not about you...

amother

Lavender

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 12:42 am

I've brought my newborn to a close relative's funeral. I fed and changed her before and stayed near a door. she slept in her car seat the whole time (I even had a car seat cover over her so she wasn't a distraction to anyone)

Lukshen

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 12:55 am

I would not take a baby to a funeral.

heidi

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 1:33 am

If you can't leave your baby for the funeral make a shiva call and have your husband wait outside in the car with the baby.

Ruchel

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 10:32 am

NO! Not funeral and no shiva call. My mother didn't go for her own grandmother because of me.

L K

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 1:15 pm

I went to my grandmothers funeral with my 2 week old baby but left her outside with someone so I could go inside for some time.

If it's important for you to go maybe you can ask a classmate that is also going to watch your baby for 5 or 10 minutes?

mha3484

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 2:25 pm

I would try as hard as possible to avoid it. The first few times I used a sitter with my oldest was to go to funerals and shiva. If it was impossible, I would probably wear the baby and stand in the back towards the door. I think it can blend in better and prevent crankiness.

BetsyTacy

Fri, Feb 05 2016, 2:35 pm

Send a handwritten, heartfelt card to the mourners. Do not attend the levaya of your grade school friend with a baby in tow. Nobody expects someone with a 4 month old to be there, and I think you may cause more tzaar than nechama.

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