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LittleDucky

Thu, Jun 23 2016, 9:43 pm

daagahminayin wrote:

Are you fit for a kohen? (Exact words)

Only ok to ask if he is a Kohen. But ask in a much better way vs making her sound like a piece of meat.

dancingqueen

Thu, Jun 23 2016, 10:57 pm

Wow these are insane! So glad I got picked by dh, not his mom, though I doubt she would have asked crazy questions like these anyway.

amother

Brown

Thu, Jun 23 2016, 11:12 pm

daagahminayin wrote:

Are you fit for a kohen? (Exact words)

Someone was trying to set me up with a man, and told me he was a kohen.
I plainly said, "I cannot marry a kohen."
Them (religious person so they know the laws): Why not?
Um. Just trust me.

Amelia Bedelia

Thu, Jun 23 2016, 11:38 pm

zaq wrote:

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What age were they toilet trained?
--Long before they started school.
Did she catch on to reading fast? (yes, that makes a different 20 years later!)
-- She can read fast but prefers to read slowly, the better to absorb the material
Does she eat healthy?
--No, she eats food.
How long did it take her mom to lose weight post partum?
--Like most moms, she shed at least 15 pounds the day of delivery.

I never shed 15 lbs. upon delivery. It sometimes appeared that I lost less than the baby weighed! embarrassed

Bebesimcha

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 1:28 am

These q's have zero to do with the person today being red a shidduch!!!
So out of focus!
G luck.

heidi

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 7:51 am

I have been asked what seminary a girl went to. She was 40 years old when the question was asked!!!

Rubber Ducky

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 8:18 am

This is my favorite shidduch video. It's about shidduch questions and is a satire... I think.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGIqXd0_M3k
Shaarei Zion (Baltimore) Purim 2009 video,
it's a little over 3 minutes long:

amother

Amethyst

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 9:46 am

Delete

Last edited by amother on Mon, Feb 11 2019, 6:10 pm; edited 1 time in total

Chayalle

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 10:03 am

amother wrote:

I got a list of "suggested shidduch questions" from somewhere, somewhen, and nearly fell off my chair when I saw "What meds does the boy or girl take regularly?" I can't say whether or not anyone really had the gall to ask such a thing IRL, but what the HECK???

Though I wouldn't phrase it that way, I would definitely inquire if there are any health issues in the family when my kids are in shidduchim.

lili

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 10:11 am

the question about periods are rude and I would never have married a guy who asked but...periods DO effect our lives very much!!

Chayalle

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 10:25 am

lili wrote:

the question about periods are rude and I would never have married a guy who asked but...periods DO effect our lives very much!!

Yeah I once read in a marriage book that every guy marries 3 women....the regular woman, the woman with period, and the pg woman.

If a guy is not prepared to marry a WOMAN, he could just stay single. We are a package deal, ya know?!

amother

Smokey

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 10:36 am

I was asked the first date how I sleep. Meaning what kind of pyjama. I felt the question was so not proper I just answered naked I don't like pyjamas LOL

amother

Lemon

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 2:47 pm

I'm a BT and was constantly asked if my mother went to the mikvah.

amother

Aquamarine

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 3:15 pm

amother wrote:

I was asked the first date how I sleep. Meaning what kind of pyjama. I felt the question was so not proper I just answered naked I don't like pyjamas LOL

I'm sure he loved that. Lol

amother

Dodgerblue

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 3:15 pm

amother wrote:

I'm a BT and was constantly asked if my mother went to the mikvah.

This is the concept of being "bat niddah" - conceived while the mother is niddah. There are opinions that they have a "flawed" status and I've heard some say that they can't marry kohanim.

I'm not saying I agree, just reporting why this question is asked.

amother

Lemon

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 3:23 pm

amother wrote:

Yes, I've heard that it's considered a blemish/pigua, but never heard anything about it having an impact on marriage and didn't know that it affects marrying a cohen... Still, it isn't a question that should be asked on a resume or the like. It should be assumed that as a BT my mother did not go to the mivkah and if it is applicable and must be noted immediately, then ask in a sensitive manner.

Volunteer

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 3:42 pm

amother wrote:

I was asked the first date how I sleep. Meaning what kind of pyjama. I felt the question was so not proper I just answered naked I don't like pyjamas LOL

Oh, I was once asked if I wear lingerie or sleep naked on a date. Thanks for reminding me about that one

sourstix

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 3:53 pm

oy am I glad I didnt experience these type of questions

2cents

Fri, Jun 24 2016, 4:19 pm

amother wrote:

There is a concept of pgam when a child is conceived in nidda. I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with marrying a cohen. Rav moshe has a teshuva where he writes that if you see the boy or girl has yirat shamayim, you can assume that the mother somehow was not a nidda bdieved (eg, maybe she went swimming in a lake or something...) and it should not be held against someone in shidduchim.

I only know this because dh was very makbid about this when dating and traveled to speak to rav Moshe's son about the psak.

Ruchel

Tue, Jun 28 2016, 10:52 am

As a person or ex shadchan I almost never encountered odd questions.

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