Bad behavior when leaving grandparents

amother

Babypink

Wed, Oct 26 2016, 6:18 pm

My kids are fortunate to have very involved and fun grandparents. My oldest is 6 and and absolutely loves going to my parents. He sees them weekly, and when he has days off from school, he has a sleepover. Since we were by my parents for yontif and he didn't have school today, he stayed over for one of his special sleepovers while the rest of us went home last night. My mother brought him back about an hour ago and he's been tantruming and screaming insults at me and his siblings ever since. This doesn't happen when they visit us and leave, but it happens when we visit them and have to go home. I go it. Grandparents are fun. They give you sweets and let you stay up late, and their house is, for some reason, always more interesting than yours. But I can't take the tantrum every time it's time to leave! I don't want to limit visits, because it's not fair to my parents, but this is getting out of hand! Any suggestions for how to handle this rotten behavior?

Miri7

Wed, Oct 26 2016, 7:51 pm

Don't feed the beast. Ignore it as much as possible. Send to his room if needed. Stay calm.

Tomorrow when he's gotten over it have a quiet talk about how he does this when he comes home. Let him know that it's hard and it's not ok to behave like that. Talk with him about other ideas for dealing with these feelings.

shirachadasha

Wed, Oct 26 2016, 8:15 pm

The next time he has the option to go say:
I want to let you go to your grandparents' house. Can we have an understanding that when I say it's time to go you will come without a fuss? Keep in mind the way that you comply will affect my decision to let you go in the future.