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amother
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 Sat, Jan 21 2017, 10:49 pm
Hi amothers. I'm in desperate need of some help.
I am not sure how to write it but I will give it a shot. My 7 yr old dc is a very bright, smart child however an emotional wreck. Dc has extreme anxiety and lives daily in misery. Dc refuses to interact with people and only goes to school because dc knows it is a must. Dc is rarely happy and gets ticked off by the tiniest and most silly things. Dc hates his/her siblings except for the baby that loves dc.
Every time dc leaves the house, dc bites his/her hands and nails until dc gets home. When dc does arrive home, dc then closes the bedroom door and bites his/her toenails. Dc does this so often that they literally get infected and require medical attention.
Dc doesn't enjoy playing with sibs or peers, and would 99% of time at home be playing in dc's room behind a locked door.
Dc has had play therapy, speech therapy and SEIT until dc turned 5. Dc has never been to any therapist, social worker, psychologist or psychiatrist.
Dc has never been diagnosed with ADD or such.
I'm at a complete loss. I don't know who to turn to and don't know what to do.
Can anyone (preferably in the Monsey area) please share their personal experiences and recommend a VERY good therapist/social worker/psych?
Thanks for reading and I look forward to reading your responses.
I should add that dc's self esteem and confidence are almost non existent.
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amother
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Sat, Jan 21 2017, 11:41 pm
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cnc
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Sat, Jan 21 2017, 11:43 pm
That's so sad.
Has the child always been like this? Or is this a recent change?
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amother
Firebrick
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Sat, Jan 21 2017, 11:58 pm
| cnc wrote: | That's so sad.
Has the child always been like this? Or is this a recent change? |
Dc has been like this since about 3 years old. The situation has only worsened and intensified over the years. Its reached a point where I'm crying when I see dc behavior. And its all tears of helplessness. I know dc is miserable yet I don't know how to help DC.
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amother
Firebrick
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 12:00 am
| amother wrote: | | Sounds like pandas. |
I'm not familiar with this. Do you have any more info on this? Or would you have any suggestions where I can take dc to be helped for it?
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ohmygosh
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 12:05 am
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Why in the world has dc never been to a child psychologist or psychiatrist? It sounds like it is way overdue. Your child is clearly not functioning on an acceptable level and needs serious intervention.
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amother
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 12:22 am
| ohmygosh wrote: | | Why in the world has dc never been to a child psychologist or psychiatrist? It sounds like it is way overdue. Your child is clearly not functioning on an acceptable level and needs serious intervention. |
That is precisely the reason why I came on here tonight. I'm asking for recommendations from amothers who have experiences in this field.
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amother
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 12:23 am
| amother wrote: | | Sounds like pandas. |
No it doesn't.
It sounds a lot more severe than that.
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sourstix
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 12:48 am
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Please go to your pediatrician asap! Don't ask us for recommendations! Please don't wait call the doctor now! This child is suffering so much!
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behappysk
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 12:57 am
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There is a therapist named Klein in Monsey. I know someone that uses him for a child with behavioral And physical issues. I can try to get the contact info for you if you're interested.
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amother
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 1:09 am
Did he/ she possibly experience or witness a traumatic event? It sounds to me like it could be symptoms of PTSD, especially if the behaviors weren't always present.
Do his/ her teachers report any atypical behaviors at school? Maybe the school has resources like a psychologist dc can speak to or they might be able to refer you to one. A child psychologist is probably a good place to start.
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amother
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 1:15 am
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It sounds like autism spectrum disorder. Please go for an evaluation- try a neuropsychologist.
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cnc
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 1:30 am
Does your child go for well visits regularly?
Do you have a relationship with your pediatrician?
How is this going on for four years without either your doctor or the school not urging you to take action? (Not trying to make you feel guilty, I'm just trying to figure out how this is going on for four years!)
Also, if child receives services through age five, they most likely would have been evaluated by a child psychologist - is there any information on the IEP if you still have it?
I would start with either having a long discussion with your pediatrician assuming that you trust him or her, or getting a recommendation for a good child psychologist (no suggestions as I'm not in Monsey).
To all those speculating what it sounds like, it can be any one of hundreds of things, which is why a I think a (general/broad) child psychologist makes the most sense. Once you pinpoint or narrow down the issue you can head to a specialist .
Hatzlacha.
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5*Mom
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 6:16 am
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First see your pediatrician to rule out any medical issue, then get a referral for an excellent pediatric neuropsychologist for a thorough evaluation.
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amother
Firebrick
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 9:00 am
| behappysk wrote: | | There is a therapist named Klein in Monsey. I know someone that uses him for a child with behavioral And physical issues. I can try to get the contact info for you if you're interested. |
Thank you for this. Please get the info. I would also want to get some references that have used him with positive results.
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amother
Firebrick
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 9:05 am
| amother wrote: | Did he/ she possibly experience or witness a traumatic event? It sounds to me like it could be symptoms of PTSD, especially if the behaviors weren't always present.
Do his/ her teachers report any atypical behaviors at school? Maybe the school has resources like a psychologist dc can speak to or they might be able to refer you to one. A child psychologist is probably a good place to start. |
Dc never witnessed any out of the ordinary scenes however, dc does have an over-active imagination and can see a pic of something innocent in a book yet in dc's brain it already escalated into something super dramatic. I've seen the behavior and anxiety worsen after such things.
The school doesn't have any such services so I'd have to find a psych myself. Hence the reason why I'm here.
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amother
Firebrick
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 9:06 am
| amother wrote: | | It sounds like autism spectrum disorder. Please go for an evaluation- try a neuropsychologist. |
Dc has been through many evaluations and it was never suspected.
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amother
Firebrick
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 9:11 am
| cnc wrote: | Does your child go for well visits regularly?
Do you have a relationship with your pediatrician?
How is this going on for four years without either your doctor or the school not urging you to take action? (Not trying to make you feel guilty, I'm just trying to figure out how this is going on for four years!)
Also, if child receives services through age five, they most likely would have been evaluated by a child psychologist - is there any information on the IEP if you still have it?
I would start with either having a long discussion with your pediatrician assuming that you trust him or her, or getting a recommendation for a good child psychologist (no suggestions as I'm not in Monsey).
To all those speculating what it sounds like, it can be any one of hundreds of things, which is why a I think a (general/broad) child psychologist makes the most sense. Once you pinpoint or narrow down the issue you can head to a specialist .
Hatzlacha. |
Actually I'm the one that made the speech therapist crazy that there's someone wrong with dc. Dc never speaks what dc feels. Its always violent action. At a certain point the speech therapist said that there's nothing to work on dc anymore since dc doesn't have any speech issues. As many times as I pleaded that they should dig deeper cuz its not a speech issue, that its expressive, it was to no avail. When I pressed further, the speech therapist agreed to teach dc about different emotions. That didn't really solve things.
Dc does go regularly for the annual well visits and I did discuss it with the pediatrician but the pediatrician didn't feel that it is so severe to require action. I did switch drs since we moved locations and no, there aren't really any specific dr that I trust in Monsey.
I came on here to try to get recommendations to a psych, social worker or therapist. I have Google and can also attempt to diagnose it. That's not what I'm looking for. I'm looking how to help it.
Now, can anyone recommend a good therapist or psych for dc in the Monsey area? Must be Yiddish speaking.
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FranticFrummie
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 9:13 am
First of all, please don't beat yourself up. Don't let anyone tell you that you caused this by doing/not doing whatever. Those people are ignorant yentas.
The Children's Hospital network has excellent evaluation systems in place. If one department can't figure it out, they will refer you to another one, instead of just saying "I dunno." DD went through Seattle Children's Hospital, and they treated her life a princess the whole way. We were never blamed as bad parents, but only encouraged.
You may be looking at a combination of parenting classes, therapy for DC, medication, genetic testing, and a range of functional tests with specialists.
Don't be discouraged. Every test that comes up negative, is leading you one step closer to the answer, by process of elimination.
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amother
Firebrick
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Sun, Jan 22 2017, 9:27 am
| FranticFrummie wrote: | First of all, please don't beat yourself up. Don't let anyone tell you that you caused this by doing/not doing whatever. Those people are ignorant yentas.
The Children's Hospital network has excellent evaluation systems in place. If one department can't figure it out, they will refer you to another one, instead of just saying "I dunno." DD went through Seattle Children's Hospital, and they treated her life a princess the whole way. We were never blamed as bad parents, but only encouraged.
You may be looking at a combination of parenting classes, therapy for DC, medication, genetic testing, and a range of functional tests with specialists.
Don't be discouraged. Every test that comes up negative, is leading you one step closer to the answer, by process of elimination. |
Thank you very much for your helpful post. I will look into the children's hospital and see what I can get. I'm aware that parenting classes is essential just to keep things running but I'm pretty sure its deeper than just that. Its only 1 specific dc that has these issues. If it would be all children like that then yes, I'd blame myself for being an ignorant terrible parent. Since the situation isn't that way, I'm positive that it needs deeper intervention.
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