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hindas

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 7:21 am

I had to put my cat down last week after having her for 15 years.
Most people were sympathetic but some asked me why I was so upset about a cat because it's not a human.

grace413

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 7:30 am

Sorry for your loss. Many people just don't understand how important a pet is to people.

Sadie

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 7:36 am

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Having to put down a beloved pet was one of the hardest experiences of my life. Anyone who downplays your grief because they can't personally relate is an insensitive clod.

Here's a poem that my mom shared recently when her dog died; I found it very moving and accurately portraying the feeling of an empty hole being left behind when a pet dies:

After the Dog's Death (by Jill Stein)
Without that steady hum
which ran beneath our lives,
the silence startles us.
The living room rattles.
No soothing rhythms of
her sleeping breaths
ferry us softly through the hours.
The band of sunlight which
held her on these winter afternoons
travels alone across the bare oak floor.
The love seat where she napped,
once sun had left
is a boat hull adrift.
Her needs were trailheads
into the vast plains of day.
She mapped our lives,
made sense of our small gestures,
affirmed our goodness with her gratitude.
We say we're glad she didn't suffer much.
We say we'd like to die so gently, head in lap,
and softly lulled to sleep,
but we're not fooled.
It's ourselves we cosseted in loving her.
We're lost inside her absence
dwarfing us in its enormous space.

ra_mom

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 7:36 am

I'm so sorry for your loss! Hug

greenhelm

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 7:55 am

I'm so sorry!

mommy3b2c

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 7:56 am

Please don't give such people a second thought. They obviously have their brain in their a*s. My sincerest condolences.

Ftr, one of the main reasons I don't buy a pet is because it's to sad when they die. Of course it's very painful to lose an animal that you love.

Debbie

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 8:22 am

I'm so sorry for your loss hindas; two of my cats have died and I know all too well that losing a human loved one is very different, nevertheless losing a much loved pet is a bit like losing a member of the family
That's my opinion anyway.

PinkFridge

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 10:48 am

I am really sorry. How can one not be sympathetic? Besides the pleasure of the companionship (not all cats are Garfield) there's the theme of the Kuntres Hachesed: we love that which we invest in. (Even inanimate objects - think of Yona's disappointment with the kikayon.) How could you not be in distress? Hugs!

Amarante

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 11:12 am

So sorry for your loss. My dog died 20 years ago and I still tear up when I remember him.

CatLady

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 11:20 am

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your cat was lucky to spend nine lives with you, and you were equally fortunate to have the chance to experience 15 years of kitty-love. (((Hugs)))

ceebee

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 11:24 am

So sorry for your loss. Pets are full members of the family.

sequoia

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 1:24 pm

So sorry for your loss. ❤❤❤

PinkFridge

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 1:34 pm

I would edit to add: what Sadie said about having to put down a pet.
I haven't had pets, but I remember what a very chashuve posek said in seminary: he would have loved to have pets, it would have been an incredible chinuch experience for his children.
And now you've had to learn and be mekayem the sugya of tzaar baalei chayim. This must have been so difficult for you, and I hope you have menucha, and simcha soon.

I'm sorry if all the frumspeak is jarring, but it's where I'm coming from, and it's what makes it so clear to me that you have a right to be upset, especially with it just last week, not to mention the weeks or months leading up to it.

amother

Blush

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 1:47 pm

I don't have pets and I don't understand the feeling of having one.
But I do understand that you are sad now even though I don't fully understand why or how.
Hugs to you!

esther990

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 1:53 pm

I am so sorry. Ive lost a few pets before.

I hope you have lots of great memories.

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rainbow dash

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 4:25 pm

Sorry for your loss. I was very close to my pets and upset when they died. Dont worry about what others think.

MagentaYenta

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 4:35 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. I had to have my cat euthanized after 18 years a few years back and feel his loss to this day.

ectomorph

Sun, Mar 12 2017, 10:03 pm

Hamakom yemalei chesronchem

greenfire

Mon, Mar 13 2017, 7:03 pm

there's is never an easy time or an easy way to lose a beloved pet ... my heart goes out to you for your loss ~ may she rest in kitty heaven Hug

(^_^)~~~

PAMOM

Mon, Mar 13 2017, 8:16 pm

Hindas, I'm so sorry. Our animals are very much a part of our lives and how we spend them. Let your memories comfort you.

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