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Reesa




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 5:02 am
This is not a religious question. I'm curious if ladies would be comfortable with this as a first choice career and why.
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amother
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Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 5:07 am
I wouldn't be comfortable with it.
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allthingsblue




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 5:33 am
Only if I met him after he was already practicing.
Even then I might not be so cool with it, I'd probably choose to date someone else instead.
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tigerwife




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 5:50 am
Would you be turned on if you practiced Urology?

Somehow I don't think it would bother me. I see it as just another surgical field with an extra miraculous side to it.
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amother
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Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 5:51 am
My first and main reason for being opposed is, the hours are terrible for family life.

On the flip side, they make pretty decent money, but still, for me it would not be worth the trade off.
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FranticFrummie




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 5:53 am
Some people go into a field of medicine because it comes easy to them, or they think it's a lucrative field. Others go into a field because they are fascinated by it, and are genuinely passionate about healing that particular situation.

If my DH were truly dedicated to making women's lives better, I would be proud of him. If he was kind and compassionate to all of his patients, didn't come home and talk about them behind their backs, and treated them with respect, that's all I could ask for.

If he were crass, told me gross or "funny" stories, or spoke at all disrespectfully about his patients, I wouldn't care if he were a dentist or dermatologist, it would be a deal breaker.

Motivation and attitude are EVERYTHING. Look beyond your "ick factor", and see the person inside.

(The doctor who did my hysterectomy was a man, and he was one of the kindest men I've ever met. Dr. Fischer at Portland Adventist, if you ever need a specialist.)
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ectomorph




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 5:55 am
Nope. I find it creepy. I only go to female ob Gyn.
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amother
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Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 5:59 am
Dh is a doctor (not an OB-GYN). Here's his take: He is surprised by the attitude that it is weird for a man to go into this specialty. He says that it is primarily a surgical specialty, and if these men have a fascination with seeing women's reproductive organs, it is through the abdominal wall. Pelvic exams are just something that has to be done. As with proctology and urology, it is a much misunderstood profession that is completely matter-of-fact to the people actually doing it (except for being present at childbirth - the OBs I know say it never gets old). So no, I would not have a problem with it.
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gdgirl




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 6:04 am
I would be uncomfortable.
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mommy3b2c




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 6:08 am
I wouldn't be thrilled, but I wouldn't care that much. As part of his field experience, he needed experience in ob/gyn and I didn't think too deeply into it. He's also delivered many babies and I feel very proud of him.
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amother
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Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 6:24 am
NO NO AND NO!
That my husband's job is to look in women's v@ginas and feel their breasts?? No. I know people say when it is a person's job it isn't s-xual, but come on. Never? When a beautiful woman comes in and you have to mush her boobs around there is NOTHING? I doubt it.

And to answer the poster that asked if I would be turned on if I were a uroligist--I'd say that in the majority of cases no, but when an especially handsome man is totally undressed and your job is to probe around, probably yes. That is just human nature and nature needs to be taken into account when choosing a profession.
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amother
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Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 6:50 am
I'm just wondering what would motivate a young man around 20 or 21 to persue a career that involves looking at a woman's privates all day. I'm having a hard time believing that at such a young age, their motivation is entirely wholesome. Something seems wrong and messed up.
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Reesa




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 6:55 am
Are there any wives of obgyns here who can weigh in? I'm really curious how you feel. The rest of us can just speculate if we would appreciate it or not. I don't think I would appreciate it at all.
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amother
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Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 6:57 am
tigerwife wrote:
Would you be turned on if you practiced Urology?

Somehow I don't think it would bother me. I see it as just another surgical field with an extra miraculous side to it.


And do you think most dhs would be ok with their wives being a urologist? Probably not.

I wouldn't like it op.
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33055




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 7:04 am
amother wrote:
I'm just wondering what would motivate a you man around 20 or 21 to persue a career that involves looking at a woman's privates all day. I'm having a hard time believing that at such a young age, their motivation is entirely wholesome. Something seems wrong and messed up.


He is probably 25 or older when he is matched with his residency.

He could be motivated to bring new life into the world, or he could want a good parnosa, or he could not get accepted to the other more highly competitive surgical programs.

Something is demented in those that attribute that motivation to look at women's privates to this career.

Why aren't female OB/GYNs similarly labeled as perverts. Perhaps they also love looking at virgin@s. Why not label plastic surgeons? Or radiation technicians?

Do you think Rabbis that look at panties also decided at young age to do that for the thrill?
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tigerwife




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 7:08 am
amother wrote:
NO NO AND NO!
That my husband's job is to look in women's v@ginas and feel their breasts?? .


Somehow I think the goal is to help bring babies into this world which is really amazing actually. My immediate reaction is definitely not the above. But if that's what you associate OBs (and not Gynos) with, then, ick, I get it.
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shabbatiscoming




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 7:10 am
amother wrote:
I'm just wondering what would motivate a young man around 20 or 21 to persue a career that involves looking at a woman's privates all day. I'm having a hard time believing that at such a young age, their motivation is entirely wholesome. Something seems wrong and messed up.
So, no 20 year old is going to be an obgyn. They will be specializing and will be a bit older, closer to 30. But Ill tell you. We had a friend who was in med school. He was finishing up and was about to decide his specialty and he said that he got to take part in a few births at one point and found it to be amazing to be able to help bring a child into the world.
Why do people think that any professional man would want to become an obgyn to look at v@ginas and touch breasts (as one poster put it) all day? Thats one part of the job. Seriously. And knowing the guy who I am talking about, he is probably an amazing obstetrician.
I personally would not find it strange at all. I would love hearing stories about the different babies my husband helped to bring into this world. And the rest? Its just part of the job.
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amother
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Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 7:20 am
Squishy wrote:
He is probably 25 or older when he is matched with his residency.

He could be motivated to bring new life into the world, or he could want a good parnosa, or he could not get accepted to the other more highly competitive surgical programs.

Something is demented in those that attribute that motivation to look at women's privates to this career.

Why aren't female OB/GYNs similarly labeled as perverts. Perhaps they also love looking at virgin@s. Why not label plastic surgeons? Or radiation technicians?

Do you think Rabbis that look at panties also decided at young age to do that for the thrill?


I'm not saying that 100% of young men who choose this field are perverts. I'm just saying it seems like a strange choice to me and has me wondering . I wouldn't exactly compare it to a rabbi who inspects panties. 99% of a rabbi's job involves things other than checking underwear. An ob/gyn is looking at vagin$ all day. I would indeed think it's weird for a rabbi to hypothetically become a full time "panty inspector", as in he did none of the other dozens of jobs a rabbi needs to involve himself in other than panty inspection.
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nywife




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 7:32 am
I wouldn't care. I think that those who work in healthcare realize how clinical and impersonal patient exams are. There's no s-xual aspect at all.
My only concern would be the hours, which are notoriously unreliable.
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amother
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Post Mon, Apr 10 2017, 9:05 am
I totally wouldnt care!

(two close relatives of mine are ob/gyns, both have checked me before)

Also my ob/gyn is my close friends husband- I doubt she has a problem with it.

Docs are professionals and should separate private life from work OBVIOUSLY
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