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sneakermom
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 Sun, Apr 30 2017, 5:58 pm
Give them a chore every time they talk back. Calmly you can say, "I expect to be spoken to with respect, you will be doing the dishes tonight."
And then move on. No dwelling or changing your mind.
We all live and learn. Especially kids who are still figuring out how to self regulate.
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saw50st8
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Sun, Apr 30 2017, 6:07 pm
I tell them "I'm sorry, I don't understand you when you speak like that. Can you try again?"
It usually works.
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amother
Bronze
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Sun, Apr 30 2017, 6:49 pm
How do you and your spouse speak to each other?
Do you ever undermined each other?
Even if it's not in front of the kids, kids pick up on this.
They mimic everything we do.
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Merrymom
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Sun, Apr 30 2017, 7:56 pm
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I think you need to choose between a loving close relationship that veers into chutzpah on occasion or a more distant cold relationship. I just don't see that you can have both in this generation. This doesn't mean you don't respond to chutzpah, you should but if the only way you can get your kids to respect you is by threatening them, they don't really respect you anyway, they only fear you.
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amother
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Sun, Apr 30 2017, 8:12 pm
I agree with Merrymom. IOW the reason the kids talk back to you is because you don't spank them long enough and hard enough that they are terrified. Because in this generation, even if you do spank, they're going to talk back.
I try and tell myself that the chutzpah is hevlei hamoshiach.
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Ruchel
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Mon, May 01 2017, 11:03 am
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Well my oldest is only 10, but if it's going too far, I'll warn and then punish. Again can't comment on new age style. I'm more classic and traditional.
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sequoia
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Mon, May 01 2017, 11:10 am
| Ruchel wrote: | | Well my oldest is only 10, but if it's going too far, I'll warn and then punish. Again can't comment on new age style. I'm more classic and traditional. |
I don't believe you've ever really punished any of your kids. 
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