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amother
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Post Sun, May 14 2017, 9:10 pm
mommy3b2c wrote:
Yes. Everyone does.


Nope. Not everyone. I've seen the picture of my mom signing in her wedding album, but I didnt sign anything.
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amother
Salmon


 

Post Sun, May 14 2017, 9:20 pm
I used Rav Moshe Feinstein's text for Tenaim. It is only signed by Eidim. It was signed the day of the wedding - however not by me.
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octopus




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 14 2017, 9:23 pm
I signed mine. I'm not chassidish. The eidim came and gave me a pen and paper. I totally wasn't prepared for it. I signed in super sloppy handwriting (hebrew). I still have that paper.
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mommy3b2c




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 14 2017, 9:23 pm
amother wrote:
My question was did the you (the kallah) sign.. u said yes.. if u aren't there then how did u sign it?!
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I thought you meant was a tenoyim signed.

But anyway, if I think back, maybe I did. Ill have to ask my mother. Domt really remember.
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amother
Ginger


 

Post Sun, May 14 2017, 9:35 pm
mommy3b2c wrote:
m


I thought you meant was a tenoyim signed.

But anyway, if I think back, maybe I did. Ill have to ask my mother. Domt really remember.


Didn't you keep your tenoyim document? Or are you one of those people who lets her mother keep her kesuba by her?
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mommy3b2c




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 14 2017, 9:38 pm
amother wrote:
Didn't you keep your tenoyim document? Or are you one of those people who lets her mother keep her kesuba by her?


My mother took my kesuba home the night of my wedding and its been there ever since.
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amother
Blonde


 

Post Sun, May 14 2017, 10:25 pm
Mine was signed by 2 witnesses in the chassan's tisch. I never saw it until after the wedding.
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heidi




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 1:49 am
I was told to lift a pen while I was sitting in the kallah chair at the kabbalat panim. I had no idea why. Realized later that it was tenaim. I wonder if that's even valid.
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Rutabaga




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 1:56 am
I think I signed something but I have no idea what happened to it. I wouldn't think the tanaim have any significance once the wedding occurs. I do have my kesuba.
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miami85




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 9:01 am
Tenaim WERE signed on my behalf, but by the time I saw the document it didn't mean anything b/c it was already after the chuppah. I have seen wedding where the kallah did the handkerchief thing, but I didn't. We have the document somewhere.
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amother
Beige


 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 9:25 am
I have my ketubah but don't think I have my tenaim?
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tigerwife




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 11:10 am
Never heard of the handkerchief, but I lifted a gartel by my vort. Is that the same idea? Honestly didn't even think twice about it.
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crust




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 11:44 am
mommy3b2c wrote:
My mother took my kesuba home the night of my wedding and its been there ever since.

Maybe I'm slow and this is a joke? Don't chap.
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sky




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 11:48 am
crust wrote:
Maybe I'm slow and this is a joke? Don't chap.

My mother also has mine. Its very common in some circles.
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crust




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 11:51 am
sky wrote:
My mother also has mine. Its very common in some circles.
ok. Thanks for clarifying. May I ask where this minhag comes from?
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LiLIsraeli




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 12:00 pm
crust wrote:
Maybe I'm slow and this is a joke? Don't chap.


What's the problem? My mother has my kesuba too. As long as you know where it is, it's fine.
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crust




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 12:03 pm
LiLIsraeli wrote:
What's the problem? My mother has my kesuba too. As long as you know where it is, it's fine.
I didn't say it's a problem. I haven't heard of it. I thought it was something I don't get.
Now, I am respectfully curious if this is a minhag and where it comes from.
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STMommy




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 12:20 pm
I don't remember signing my tenaim at my wedding.
I do remember signing my pre-nup.
Smile
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mommy3b2c




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 12:34 pm
crust wrote:
Maybe I'm slow and this is a joke? Don't chap.


Its not a joke. My kesuba is in my parents house. Why would it be a joke?
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tigerwife




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 15 2017, 12:36 pm
crust wrote:
ok. Thanks for clarifying. May I ask where this minhag comes from?


There was a pretty interesting thread here not so long ago about where people keep their kesubos.

ETA:
http://www.imamother.com/forum.....esuba
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