Gave my child a potch. I hate myself.

amother

Honeydew

Thu, Jun 08 2017, 10:41 pm

The last time I potched my kid, I cried a lot longer than she did.....

I feel awful when I do that. Bh it is very infrequent and usually a safty issue. But still.

I grew up being beaten for the slightest thing, like not getting up on time. (never mind I was slaving away doing heavy duty cleaning stuff that kids shouldn't be doing and that's the reason I'm tired.... ).
So for me potching is the automatic go to in my mind.

As long as it happens infrequent (and I hope it won't ever happen again, hashem knows how hard I try), I convince myself it won't cause any damage to my child. Or else I wouldn't be able to live with myself.

Like my neighbor says, "every mother has those days that they wish wouldn't have happened"

Pick youself up, and try again.

What helped me, is to plan a consequence, a reaction in advance to the most common stressors. And a parenting book. Because I found myself potching out of a loss of knowledge on how to respond appropriately. Because I was never taught any other way, so I got myself some "tools" and bh bh.

amother

Forestgreen

Fri, Jun 09 2017, 7:41 am

amother wrote:

Hitting is not beating. Don't beat yourself up. Kids are resilient.

Thanks
Childs here in my bed with me right now telling me he's only forgiving me if I buy him a spinner. LOL

amother

Cyan

Fri, Jun 09 2017, 9:34 am

I felt the same just yesterday
my 4 year old on purpose basically almost closed the car door on my 2 year old fingers
I was furious and petrified
I potched
the worst was the look on her face while I potched her. I couldnt stop picturing it the whole night last night.

I felt awful. my dh is telling me I did the right thing.
I just hope she doesnt remember.
Sad

mommy3b2c

Fri, Jun 09 2017, 10:05 am

amother wrote:

You did the right thing. Some things deserve a potch. And if you only potch when it is really needed, then your child will learn which things are really crossing a line.

amother

Cyan

Fri, Jun 09 2017, 10:19 am

mommy3b2c wrote:

You did the right thing. Some things deserve a potch. And if you only potch when it is really needed, then your child will learn which things are really crossing a line.

thanks
shes just a sensitive kid I know she will talk abt this for a while...