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What level of education would you want the boy your daughter marries to have?
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| I wouldn't consider someone without a college degree and a profession. |
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Motek
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 Thu, Dec 08 2005, 2:46 pm
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What level of education would you want the boy your daughter marries to have?
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shayna82
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 2:47 pm
you didnt put up, "secondary education is preferable"
I would fall under that catergory
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chen
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 3:25 pm
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What do you mean by "secondary education"? In the US, secondary education means high school. Secular. Someone who had limudei chol through Grade 8 and then went to f/t yeshivoh with no limudei chol would not be considered to have had a secondary education.
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Meema2Kids
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 3:30 pm
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I wouldn't say that education doesn't count, but might be a smaller factor than others.
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shayna82
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 3:32 pm
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chen, I mean that a little college, or a full degree would be nice.. in this day and age, it DOES help you to a certain extent in the workfource.
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amother
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 3:36 pm
The only sort of person I would categorically not consider from the outset is someone not Jewish or someone whose values are offensive to me. Everything else is negotiable.
Would I tell the shadchan I davka want a boy who didn't go to college for my daughter who is trying to decide whether or not she wants to be a doctor? No, of course not, I would prefer someone with an educational level equal to or greater than hers. But would I say to the shadchan "This boy is possul because he didn't go to college?" also of course not. there are so many other factors to consider.
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chen
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 3:42 pm
| shayna82 wrote: | | chen, I mean that a little college, or a full degree would be nice.. in this day and age, it DOES help you to a certain extent in the workfource. |
oh, I see, you meant an intermediate choice between the second and third choices.
Of course it helps. We all know people who became millionaires despite little formal secular education, but while a college degree does not guarantee success, but over a lifetime the average college grad makes more money than the average non-college grad.
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shayna82
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 3:47 pm
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yup, thats why I say its not a MUST but it would be nice... (to have some education, in a field)
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imanut
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 8:39 pm
I would want the boy to have a full yeshiva education, but of course it would be up to my daughter.
this is what I don't understand about these questions. shouldn't these decisions be up to the boy/girl? what does it matter if the parents would consider a certain thing ok if the child doesn't?
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Motek
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 8:41 pm
the question is what would you, as the parent, want for your daughter
what she wants and what ultimately happens is another story
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shayna82
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 8:42 pm
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thats why I said, I would "prefer" of cource it would be up to my kids.
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Tovah
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 8:44 pm
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I want my sil to be able to support my daughter!
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Motek
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 9:00 pm
my, whole old-fashioned you are! 
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TzenaRena
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 9:24 pm
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Where is the question about Yeshiva Education? Is that included in college I.e. Rabbinical College, the degree being Smicha?
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Mandy
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Thu, Dec 08 2005, 11:49 pm
This is all about the yichus bit again.
Motek, shouldn't you really be asking : Is it important to you that your future son in law's parents went to Ivy League schools and their parents did and their great-grandparents did as well ?
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1stimer
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Sat, Dec 10 2005, 2:16 pm
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Ideally, I would want my son/sil to know what he wanted to do to bring in a parnassa, when needed, be it in kodesh or chol, and a plan of how to achieve it. But it's up to the kids isn't it?
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hadasa
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Sat, Dec 10 2005, 2:31 pm
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Lubavitcher Yeshivah education, Smichah.
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Ozmom
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Sat, Dec 10 2005, 6:41 pm
Mandy wrote:
| Quote: | This is all about the yichus bit again.
Motek, shouldn't you really be asking : Is it important to you that your future son in law's parents went to Ivy League schools and their parents did and their great-grandparents did as well ? |
  ok me terribly funcused now
wasn't the question what level of education would you want your sil to have?
not um, what parentage should he have?
how did we get from education to yichus?
oh unless... are you saying... ppl without yichus can't learn?? 
there is something wrong with them and they can't learn? is that it mandy?
ah ok..um thats a new one on me
but an interesting thought.
so all those bt's that I know that are quite smart and learned...its all just my imagination, or it must be that there is some mistake, really, they are the great great grand nephew of the late Reb Frekkles the water carrier and hidden tzaddik of Wollongong.
and thats where they get their seichel from.
ok I get it now, its ok no need to worry I'm now officially unfuncused
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carrot
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Sat, Dec 10 2005, 7:09 pm
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Ozmom go to the thread about shidduchim with bt's (or maybe it's the one about shidduchim with children of geirim? I don't remember - one of those two ) and you will be unfuncused.
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