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Tefila




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Feb 17 2005, 3:42 pm
When do we stop inviting girls or boys in fam to our homes when we have older kids?
At what age and what about cousins etc?
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Tefila




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Feb 17 2005, 10:15 pm
You see I am just starting to have this dilemma and both my husband and I can't fully decide on what to do? Confused
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supermom




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Feb 18 2005, 2:41 am
why should it be a problem? I always enjoyed my cousins coming over girls or boys it is not like I am gonna actualy marry any of them. And if by chance one of your kids do marry their cousins which I have seen done before then what is so bad, then it was meant to be no? And the worst that could possible be is that you would become a grandmother/great aunt/mother in law and the like in a span of a year. And if you do decide not to have them over you are depriving your kids of family.
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Post Fri, Feb 18 2005, 9:22 am
freilich- im not sure why its different than unrelated boys and girls. I stopped playing with my boy cousins way before bas mitzvah, and definitely by the time I was 9, I dont remember exactly. but that was playing together. as far as talking and having conversations, it just became "hi how are you."
I grew up surrounded by so many first cousins I couldnt remember all their names although we saw them a few times a year. the other girl and boy cousins did interact more than I did which I thought was strange, but since we kept more than they did I was used to being different.
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Post Fri, Feb 18 2005, 10:57 am
Freilich, I think if the kids are frum, a clever sitting arrangement will do the trick.
I the kids in question are more modernish, then when they notice opposite relations is the time for separation. Gotta watch them!
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Post Fri, Feb 18 2005, 11:54 am
RG- B"H you have such a large family. My kids can't claim to have that many cousins. The ones they have we cherish! I think RG made a good point though- the kids over time will seperate themselves. I have seen families who I was close with while becoming frum where the kids didn't touch and horseplay, but they had good relationships.

sara
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Tefila




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Feb 23 2005, 3:27 pm
Anyone-else, any have more suggestions like who or who not to invite for pesach seder night!
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ForeverYoung

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Post Wed, Feb 23 2005, 4:44 pm
you're talking about Seder!!!
that's a different story

remember wine???

if I had a 'mixed' crowd, I would serve Grape juice only!!!

you never know who didn't eat anything that day & might get tipsy!!!
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Post Wed, Feb 23 2005, 5:02 pm
ForeverYoung wrote:

you never know who didn't eat anything that day & might get tipsy!!!

Don't worry FY, the seder is motzei shabbos this year, so everyone will have had what to eat that day. but I agree that seder is diff. than a reg. shabbos meal. it matters how many ppl. you're talking about and as FY said you still may be able to handle it w/ a good seating plan.
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ForeverYoung

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Post Wed, Feb 23 2005, 5:14 pm
good point, 0613 Smile

However, just keep in mind that small - framed/ sized people get intoxicated faster.
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