Teaching Personal Safety

ForeverYoung
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Mon, Feb 28 2005, 11:40 am

a spin off:
http://imamother.com/forum/vie.....21862

How do we teach safe conduct to our kids without scarying the wits out of them?

not crossing streets, but talking to strangers, etc

gryp

Mon, Feb 28 2005, 11:48 am

ive heard Dr Laura say that we only tell our children as much as they can handle and only what is appropriate at the time and for their age.

ex. no need to scare them about what might happen to them if ch"v they are kidnapped, just concentrate on the first part about not getting kidnapped inthe first place.

do not scare the wits out of your child, he'll walk around with a huge unnecessary burden on his shoulders.

Tefila

Mon, Feb 28 2005, 1:30 pm

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ive heard Dr Laura say that we only tell our children as much as they can handle and only what is appropriate at the time and for their age

Unfortunatley some kids need to know more then just that and depends on age of kids yes but also for. e.g. a kid who extremley sociable has to be told more, then a shy kid by nature.
So G-D bless Laura but she doesn't know everything Wink

gryp

Mon, Feb 28 2005, 1:43 pm

hey if she knew everything, she would be frum- no?
but she knows lots more than many people ive ever heard, cant deny that.

maybe I didnt say it so well, but you say the same thing she said- only what is appropriate for the child to know. a shy child (I guess) wouldnt need to know as much as an outgoing child.

Tefila

Mon, Feb 28 2005, 2:33 pm

Rg w/out new juicy info getting out of hand she has backed out of her status conc Rabbi Bulka's conversion of her and NO I don't have a source .
But maybe someone can enlighten me! But whatever u do don't say I'm full of baloney coz I know what I heard Wink

gryp

Mon, Feb 28 2005, 2:45 pm

what does that have to do with personal safety?

we already said if she would know everything she would be frum...

Tefila

Mon, Feb 28 2005, 2:54 pm

Since when do any of these topics stay on track, remember your dealing with women incase you weren't sure?! Very Happy

ForeverYoung
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Mon, Feb 28 2005, 4:08 pm

lol
there was I so exited to see 6 replyes only to find a discussion about dr laura!!

in any case, how do you teach a child not to talk to strangers,
but ask them to answer when asked how old they are?

how do you teach a child to run the other way if ... HV'S, without explaining that such situation is possible?

Tefila

Mon, Feb 28 2005, 4:25 pm

Oy vey now fy you wan't practical, thats another story Wink

gryp

Mon, Feb 28 2005, 4:40 pm

I think it depends how you define "stranger" to your daughter. ie. a stranger is anyone you dont know when youre alone,... if with me only can answer to a stranger,... something like that.

Yael

Mon, Feb 28 2005, 9:21 pm

or when a child gets lost teach him to ask help from another mother with young children, or an old woman. these are the safest types of people statistically. or to a store clerk.

gryp

Tue, Mar 01 2005, 9:42 am

a young child must MUST know his own telephone number and address!

Pearl

Tue, Mar 01 2005, 10:20 am

at what age? not an easy thing to teach them!
I just try as much as possible for them never to be in a position that they are without a familiar adult, and so far, so good, B"H.
oy vey, horror stories running through my mind now! Confused

ForeverYoung
Guest

Tue, Mar 01 2005, 4:11 pm

Yael, that's a great idea!!!

we also have a rule that if one finds himself lost, he should either stay where he is or go back to the point where he remebers being together with us.

I am so paranoid now with 3 kids - keep on counting them all the time!!!

Motek

Tue, Mar 01 2005, 5:07 pm

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ie. a stranger is anyone you dont know when youre alone

yeah, but most molesting and kidnapping (which is what FY is talking about, I think) happens with people the children know Confused

Tefila

Tue, Mar 01 2005, 5:15 pm

Yes motek thats sooo true r"l Sad

and that is why the laws of yichud are in place and up to us parents to enforce it Exclamation

gryp

Tue, Mar 01 2005, 5:29 pm

thats also true Motek, the stories that I know about happened with real strangers which is why I said what I did...