job ideas... | Imamother

iamamother

Wed, Jan 07 2015, 2:18 pm

I am looking for job ideas for a girl coming back from seminary who doesnt really want to work but obviously needs too... she needs a job that will keep her interested in what she will be doing... she is on the creative side... any recommendations/ideas?

pickle321

Wed, Jan 07 2015, 2:46 pm

iamamother wrote:

Can she work in a school? Maybe helping with extracurricular things

Wed, Jan 07 2015, 3:18 pm

No one needs to work (unless for money, and I assume that's not the case if you're looking for a job for her!). Do not find a job for a girl who doesn't want one. Let her see for herself if she needs to work or not, and find herself a job!

People who are at a job they don't want to be at are extremely poor employees. When she wants to work, she can look for a job.

mirror

Wed, Jan 07 2015, 4:12 pm

KeepCalm wrote:

Put her in college so that she can figure it out herself. Or let her try a graphics course if she is creative.

The problem with "just going to college" is that many courses are a complete waste of time, unless you are taking specific courses towards your major.

KeepCalm

Wed, Jan 07 2015, 4:19 pm

OPINIONATED wrote:

The problem with "just going to college" is that many courses are a complete waste of time, unless you are taking specific courses towards your major.

Sounds like this girl wants to 'waste time'. If she doesn't want to get a job she is probably sitting around and waiting to get married so that she could have a baby to keep her busy. Best option right now is for her mom to encourage her to do something useful that will help her later in life.

Dev80

Wed, Jan 07 2015, 4:27 pm

There are lots of fun jobs she could probably enjoy: working for some one who does sheitals, working for a beautician (waxing, nails), working at a gown shop, working in a floral shop... I think she'll see pretty quickly on returning from seminary that she needs SOMETHING to fill her days (and you can scare her by saying she'll gain weight from all the bored eating she'll do if she doesn't go get a job!!)

finallyamommy

Wed, Jan 07 2015, 5:20 pm

Wow, okay.

So first of all, marriage is no guarantee of a baby anytime soon.

Second, yeah, I think she needs some structure in her day (says esheschayil who works part-time from home and is really bad at the whole structure thing embarrassed

). And if OP says "obviously needs to" then I assume she's living alone or saving for a wedding or something.

Other than creativity, what does she like? I'm thinking if, say, she likes to go to her married sisters and help with the kids, she can find a babysitting job. She can even add the "creativity" part into it by running an art chug/camp/activity. She can take a quick course in makeup or hair/wig styling and take off running. And if she really does want to sit and do nothing but surf the internet, there are actually social media jobs where you're required to be on Facebook all day.

It all depends on the girl, but she has to want it - you can't send in resumes and go to interviews for her.

Good luck!

iamamother

Wed, Jan 07 2015, 9:06 pm

this girl is a regular bais yaakov girl... girls either go to school or get a job. she def will not go to school- shes not very scholastic and def will not have patience for it... she needs a job to have structure and also to earn money... and hopefully she will get married off quickly and have a baby... but obviously not a guarantee. and she should be able to save up money for when she is married...

Wed, Jan 07 2015, 9:12 pm

iamamother wrote:

I agree. But she has to come to this conclusion herself. Not get a job because you told her to.

GreenEyes26

Wed, Jan 07 2015, 10:55 pm

iamamother wrote:

Is she planning on marrying a kollel guy or something who is working? Because if she's not getting any sort of degree or practical skills, or planning on working after she starts having kids, this is a quick way for her to become yet another statistic on the very long Mishpacha thread. Nip this one in the bud if you can.

allthingsblue

Wed, Jan 07 2015, 10:56 pm

Where does she live?
Look at the local websites, magazines, if you're from a big city/town. Check the classifieds. Many times there are creative jobs, such as in the fashion industry, or packaging (gifts, candies etc.), or cosmetics, hair etc.

Dolly Welsh

Thu, Jan 08 2015, 12:10 am

Sometimes people wander the city and go amuse themselves at the various shops, museums, parks, who knows what. After a bit of that they ponder where they really like going. Which was their favorite place?

Then they go work there.

The interviewer can TELL that the person just plain likes being there.

The graphics idea was interesting too.

MaBelleVie

Thu, Jan 08 2015, 12:20 am

Please recommend that she not work with children, disabled individuals or the elderly. Those are vulnerable populations and they need people who are passionate about working specifically with them. While I'm sure she's a lovely person, it would be unfair to the consumers if she wasn't particularly interested in working.

perquacky

Thu, Jan 08 2015, 1:55 pm

OPINIONATED wrote:

The problem with "just going to college" is that many courses are a complete waste of time, unless you are taking specific courses towards your major.

First of all, totally not true. Those "complete waste of time" courses are usually requirements that some people may find useless. But since so many kids start college not knowing what they want to do with their lives, those required courses often give them a taste of what's out there and guide them onto the right path.

The girl isn't scholastic? Then how about community college? It's only a 2-year commitment and might teach her a trade.