A) I agree with you 1000% (or at least your first post where no one was personally mentioned)
B) However, by going Amother it is still LH... Hashem knows who you are talking about. Maybe just say my life experience has talk me to do things differently for my family...
It's LH if people know who she is. If they don't it's not. That's why she's Anon. Read up the laws of LH. As long as they haven't changed since they got burned into my brain that's what it says.
It doesn't matter what hashem knows. He also knows your thoughts. He knows everything. LH is between people since noone goes: hashem did you see what she did???