Non-tznius bathing suit for dd for camp?

STMommy

Mon, Jul 23 2018, 1:07 pm

As someone who once had a bathing suit end up around my waist when practicing a dive during instructional swim, please insist on straps. Make it about the practicality not about tznius or who her friends are.

devo1982

Mon, Jul 23 2018, 2:11 pm

Oy, OP. Kudos to you for being sensitive to your daughter's wishes. Here's what I think I would do in your shoes:
1) Contact the camp to make sure that they are OK with a strapless suit - even if DD isn't going swimming, maybe there's a swimsuit "dress code" that she has to abide by while there. If they say it's not OK, then they've effectively solved the problem for you. If they say it is ok...

2) If finances permit, buy the strapless one, but I would also buy a regular one piece. Why? Because as a bustier girl than my friends, things that stayed up on my friends did not on me. Even if I was just lying around, it was no fun to have to constantly "adjust" myself. And tell her that - it's just a backup in case the strapless proves to be finicky/she decides she does want to swim/etc, you want her to have the option.

amother

Slategray

Mon, Jul 23 2018, 5:27 pm

Thank you all for your suggestions! I ended up sitting down with her and inviting her to look through choices on Amazon with me. We BH ended up ordering a 1-piece with straps that has some complicated lacing in the back so she feels it's not too "lady-ish." I made a point of pointing out all the most conservative looking options - "oh what do you think of that one?" so she could have the opportunity to snort and tell me they were bubbyish. I also made a point of feigning reluctance about the one she was considering - "I don't know about that one...it's okay I guess...let's see what else we can find..." so it started to look better and better. Wink

Mission accomplished! Thanks for the chizuk!

(To answer questions people asked about her friends: I guess I'm not overly concerned about her friends, but I do wish she would branch out and make a wider variety of friends -especially girls who are more academic, and I don't want her clothes to make that harder to do. It's hard because they have a cliquey class, so I understand why she would be cautious about moving too far from the safety of her friends. This age is hard! I remember it all too well!)