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amother
Lime
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 Mon, Oct 08 2018, 10:02 am
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Looking for a babysitter in BP that is very warm and loving and does overnight babysitting by the week. Having a baby iyH very soon. Any recommendations much appreciated.
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amother
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Mon, Oct 08 2018, 10:14 am
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Sending a young child to sudden unfamiliar surroundings can be traumatic and have possible long term after-affects. Consider getting a full time nurse to help out instead. Bsha Tova!
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amother
Lemon
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Mon, Oct 08 2018, 10:17 am
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Ilowitz 718-972-0151. She is great
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amother
Pearl
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Mon, Oct 08 2018, 11:18 am
| amother wrote: | | Sending a young child to sudden unfamiliar surroundings can be traumatic and have possible long term after-affects. Consider getting a full time nurse to help out instead. Bsha Tova! |
This.
Please, please reconsider this.
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amother
Pumpkin
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Mon, Oct 08 2018, 11:20 am
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My mom sent 12 toddlers to babysitters after she had a baby, we all turned out great, wasn't traumatic for anyone. If the toddler goes to a loving sitter he'll be fine.
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silly
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Mon, Oct 08 2018, 11:42 am
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My sister sent to somebody schwartz she was very very happy
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amother
Lime
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 10:39 pm
| amother wrote: | | Ilowitz 718-972-0151. She is great |
Do you have personal experience?
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amother
Lemon
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:01 pm
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Yes. She is a nice and kind woman. Was very comfortable with her.
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amother
Mauve
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:12 pm
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Im sorry, what am I missing that I cannot comprehend how a mother...A MOTHER!! can take a toddler and send him to a complete stranger? Are you serious? That is so abnormal, I don't care what you say. The kid will be shrieking for his parents, thinking he was abandoned. For God's sake...what is wrong with you people!!!!
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amother
Lemon
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:18 pm
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You can open a new thread as how you feel about sending to a babysitter. Perhaps op has no other choice but to send, no need to make her feel bad now.
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amother
Mauve
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:23 pm
| amother wrote: | | You can open a new thread as how you feel about sending to a babysitter. Perhaps op has no other choice but to send, no need to make her feel bad now. |
Send the newborn to the babysitter, at least he/she won't realize they are being abandoned!
Have DH take off
Hire a nurse, babysitter, hs girl, someone. Anyone.
I can't imagine there are zero options and thus is tge only solution. I'm sorry. I can't comprehend this.
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amother
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:31 pm
| amother wrote: | | Im sorry, what am I missing that I cannot comprehend how a mother...A MOTHER!! can take a toddler and send him to a complete stranger? Are you serious? That is so abnormal, I don't care what you say. The kid will be shrieking for his parents, thinking he was abandoned. For God's sake...what is wrong with you people!!!! |
It is absolutely not your place to criticize the parenting decisions of a woman you know nothing about.
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amother
Pumpkin
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:34 pm
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Excuse me amother mauve, you are being way out of line. There is absolutely nothing wrong with sending a child to a babysitter. A healthy child doesn't get traumatized or feel abandoned. Perhaps they cry for a bit but they don't shriek for their parents. ok,It's ok, the child will survive unscarred. If you're child sees you getting hysterical & traumatized then the child will follow your lead.
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oliveoil
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:42 pm
| amother wrote: | | Excuse me amother mauve, you are being way out of line. There is absolutely nothing wrong with sending a child to a babysitter. A healthy child doesn't get traumatized or feel abandoned. Perhaps they cry for a bit but they don't shriek for their parents. ok,It's ok, the child will survive unscarred. If you're child sees you getting hysterical & traumatized then the child will follow your lead. |
This is absolutely not true.
Even the healthiest child will feel confused, abandoned and eventually traumatized if they're suddenly sent to stay overnight - for multiple nights - at a stranger's house, no matter how nice the stranger is.
In an extreme emergency where there are no other options, ok, you do what you have to do, and then you spend a lot of time (and money - on therapy) trying to repair the damage.
But as a l'chatchila plan for when you have a new baby? Not ok. Just not.
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amother
Pewter
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:42 pm
| amother wrote: | | Im sorry, what am I missing that I cannot comprehend how a mother...A MOTHER!! can take a toddler and send him to a complete stranger? Are you serious? That is so abnormal, I don't care what you say. The kid will be shrieking for his parents, thinking he was abandoned. For God's sake...what is wrong with you people!!!! |
Do you work? Drop off your newborn baby, toddler by a babysitter????? How can A MOTHER SEND HER CHILD TO A COMPLETE STRANGER???? Are you serious? Your abandoning your children!!!!! And you do this everyday!!!! For gods sake...what is wrong with you...a mother's place is home!!!
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oliveoil
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:43 pm
| amother wrote: | Send the newborn to the babysitter, at least he/she won't realize they are being abandoned!
Have DH take off
Hire a nurse, babysitter, hs girl, someone. Anyone.
I can't imagine there are zero options and thus is tge only solution. I'm sorry. I can't comprehend this. |
No, sending the newborn is no better an option at all! How can you say that??
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amother
Aubergine
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:47 pm
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In defense of op I want to say that in some circles we are not considered strangers to each other, we are one very big family.
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oliveoil
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:48 pm
| amother wrote: | | In defense of op I want to say that in some circles we are not considered strangers to each other, we are one very big family. |
That's great, but the kid still doesn't know this woman and is going to be dropped off in a strange environment and not know or understand if or when mommy and daddy are coming back, no matter how much the parents and the babysitter "feel" like one big family.
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silly
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:51 pm
I think she is doing the right thing! OP needs to recuperate after having a baby
So she can have koach for her family
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amother
Lemon
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Tue, Oct 09 2018, 11:51 pm
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A toddler gets very easily distracted. First they cry then the babysitter is their new mommy.
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