sincere compliments

yo'ma

Thu, Nov 29 2018, 7:41 am

Do you only give sincere compliments or rather when you give a compliment are you sincere?

I complimented my sil on her picture yesterday and I really meant it. I do know how to compliment someone so they won't feel bad, like if they want or need to be complimented, but for the most part, if you get a compliment from me, I really mean it.

What about you?

zaq

Thu, Nov 29 2018, 9:51 am

Depends on the situation. I wouldn’t give a fake compliment for no reason but hey, I’m not gonna tell anyone her dc looks like a monkey! I’ll say “ wow, what a great head of hair he has” or make admiring noises like “awwww” which a fond mama will interpret as “awww how adorable.”

bigsis144

Thu, Nov 29 2018, 10:02 am

I’m similar to what zaq said.

I would classify my compliments as sincere, even if sometimes I’m just doing the socially expected thing in complimenting the person (ex. at their simcha), because I do sincerely want to make them feel good. No chanifa here.

I wouldn’t outright lie and say “your dress looks amazing” if it’s not; I try to find something nice to say that I really can get behind, like “your earrings match your dress perfectly!” or “you’re mamash glowing with joy, I’m so happy for you!”

I’ve been told I give good compliments because I notice things, and that’s certainly deliberate on my part. I think I’ve read the “descriptive praise” chapter of How To Talk So Kids Will Listen half a dozen times, and it’s become ingrained in me as a parent and teacher.

mommy3b2c

Thu, Nov 29 2018, 10:35 am

zaq wrote:

This exactly. I love giving compliments and give only sincere ones. I can always find some nice things to say about everyone. But if someone asks if I like their dress I would never hurt their feelings and say no. I will:

A) find something I like about it like the color
Or
B) smile and say it’s really nice or “it’s so you” without being overly gushing and fake

gold21

Thu, Nov 29 2018, 10:40 am

I don't compliment all the time, I'm more of a quiet person than an effusive person (except for my children of course, who get plenty of compliments from me lol)

But if you get a compliment from me, it's genuine

amother

Black

Thu, Nov 29 2018, 12:57 pm

I have to remind myself to tell people if I admire something about them, because why not? It makes someone happy and costs nothing. So if I remember I might go over to a stranger in the street and tell her her blouse is beautiful, or tell someone at work I admire the neatness of her work station or the tchotchke on her desk. Women only, of course.