He couldn't pay. They towed the car.

amother

Emerald

Thu, Jan 31 2019, 10:10 pm

I don't blame them. He owes them over $1k for over a few months of payment. But it's so hard.
For reasons beyond his control he took a pay cut (nothing to do with his preformence at work). If it has to do with how he preformed he'd deserve a raise!
He's trying to build up a business on his very little free time.

It's HARD though.

amother

Scarlet

Fri, Feb 01 2019, 10:48 am

naturalmom5 wrote:

BTDT

Things do get better . Iyh

BTDT my hubs friend gave him a clunker which we were also thankful but Bh things picked up for the better and just stay positive I know it’s hard and it’s hard to smile through it!

amother

Ivory

Fri, Feb 01 2019, 11:40 am

I could cry reading your post.
This happened to me about 3-4 years ago.
They came on Shabbos. When everyone was going and coming to shul.
I cried from shame, embarrassment and I cried for the hardship and the pain of it all.

Stay strong. Things will get better.

amother

Emerald

Fri, Feb 01 2019, 11:58 am

Thanks.

Thing is he needs the car to get to work. So he stayed home today becuase he can't get it back till Monday and he was trying to get a rental so he can get to work on Sunday.
Bh he got a rental.

There are so many things happening at once now. It's really hard. We cannot afford to pay for therapy either (c-ptsd) and I have a huge bill there too that I'll have to hold off until jt gets better. And it's so important.

But at the same time we have so much bh!
Health, mental health better than ever bh, a loving husband, beautiful children, a roof over our head, heating electricity and enough food.
(Well some of it paid thru cc but we have it bh)

And now comes shabbos. Like my kid was improvise singing earlier "shabbos is the best day of the week. I love shabbos. It makes me so happy when he comes. She comes." LOL

amother

Emerald

Fri, Feb 01 2019, 12:04 pm

amother wrote:

Oy! I'm so sorry that must have made it so much worse. I cannot imagine the pain of the shame.
Bh they came at 1 am.
We do not live in a very Jewishly populated town. And houses aren't too close.
DH was saying, "can you imagine if this would have happen a few years ago when we were living in a very busy very populated Jewish condo development? On a Thursday Night no less when it's hopping with people?

There was so much chesed in how it happened. The kids were also asleep so they didn't see it.
In the morning we just told them there was an issue with the car and so we temporarily have another one.

Oddly, I think the hardest for me is to see dh take the hit as he is the breadwinner. It hurts me to see him like that.

Thank you for all the hugs and everyone who responded it really made a differece of not feeling alone.

amother

Emerald

Fri, Feb 01 2019, 12:07 pm

amother wrote:

I know the feeling and it's not pretty. The marshall came to evict us on R"H in front of all the neighbors.

I'm davening things should get better for you soon.

I don't know how you survived that!
So terribly sorry!!!! Really puts my problems in respective.