What helps preschool age kids stop fighting

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Sun, Mar 24 2019, 11:47 pm

-Supervision. Many conflicts can be anticipated and avoided, or nipped in the bud, by an adult who's paying attention.

-Assume positive intent (Dr. Becky Bailey's words, also known as being dan lekaf zechus). "Oh, you wanted that truck?" "Oh, you wanted to make sure you would have enough?" Kids are usually just trying to protect themselves and take care of themselves, not out to hurt.

-Teaching skills. In the moment, and via role playing. "If we want a toy someone else is playing with, we say 'can I have a turn please?' Let me hear you say that now." And practice. And practice. And practice, while...

-Acknowledging and naming the behaviors you want to see. "You did it! You asked for a turn!" "You shared your truck! That was so helpful."

-Setting limits. Ex: no hitting. And reinforcing them with consequences if you need to. Ex: a time out or "reset"

-Patience. It takes a long time for kids to learn how to get along with others peacefully. Know that your work will pay off, but probably not overnight.