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"Excuse me", or "please excuse me"?



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shanie5




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 19 2019, 7:10 pm
Or "excuse me please"?

Do you need to say "please" when saying "excuse me".

Argument with coworker-looking for opinions.
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yksraya




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 19 2019, 7:18 pm
Depending on situation maybe. Like when I say, "excuse me, may I please pass"

When I say "excuse me, but that wasn't nice" there is no please. Lol. (not that I say it really)
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soap suds




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 19 2019, 7:19 pm
Either way. Comes across more polite with the please attached, but either way is fine.
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hodeez




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 19 2019, 7:21 pm
I always say excuse me please
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chicco




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 19 2019, 7:24 pm
It is always more polite to begin with please, but in this case, I really don't think it matters.
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shanie5




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 19 2019, 7:57 pm
yksraya wrote:
Depending on situation maybe. Like when I say, "excuse me, may I please pass"

When I say "excuse me, but that wasn't nice" there is no please. Lol. (not that I say it really)


I'm standing in a certain spot (working) and coworker needs to reach something behind me.
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yksraya




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 19 2019, 7:59 pm
shanie5 wrote:
I'm standing in a certain spot (working) and coworker needs to reach something behind me.

I would add please.
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cm




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 19 2019, 8:09 pm
I depends on the situation. The usage of those words is extremely nuanced. Overall, the details are not so important as long as you come across as polite.
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chicco




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 19 2019, 8:24 pm
The whole purpose of the term excuse me is to be polite (about doing something rude), therefore, the please is somewhat redundant. However, it doesn't hurt, especially if what you are about to do is ruder than a usual excuse me scenario. It communicates that you are genuinely sorry for the inconvenience and not just giving lip service.
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amother
Cyan


 

Post Sun, May 19 2019, 9:19 pm
ha. incredible how different I hear "please excuse me" vs "excuse me , please".
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amother
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Post Sun, May 19 2019, 9:35 pm
amother [ Cyan ] wrote:
ha. incredible how different I hear "please excuse me" vs "excuse me , please".

Me too!!!
IMO Please excuse me sound sweet and excuse me, please sound at best that the please was an afterthought, or forced and at worst-sarcastic and nasty.
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seeker




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, May 19 2019, 10:49 pm
amother [ Olive ] wrote:
Me too!!!
IMO Please excuse me sound sweet and excuse me, please sound at best that the please was an afterthought, or forced and at worst-sarcastic and nasty.

So funny, I prefer the opposite, I guess it's what your ears are used to? I'd hate to be making a faux pas when I say "excuse me please" which is my default.
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invisiblecircus




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 20 2019, 7:17 am
shanie5 wrote:
I'm standing in a certain spot (working) and coworker needs to reach something behind me.


Are you asking what you should say or what the co-worker should say?

I'm from the UK and the exchange would normally go like this:

Co-worker: "Excuse me please, sorry, can I just get that file behind you?"

You: "Sorry, yes of course!" [You then move away and feel guilty for getting in the way of your co-worker]

Co-worker: "Sorry. Thanks!"

LOL
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Frumwithallergies




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 20 2019, 8:08 am
invisiblecircus wrote:
Are you asking what you should say or what the co-worker should say?

I'm from the UK and the exchange would normally go like this:

Co-worker: "Excuse me please, sorry, can I just get that file behind you?"

You: "Sorry, yes of course!" [You then move away and feel guilty for getting in the way of your co-worker]

Co-worker: "Sorry. Thanks!"

LOL



Same in Canada Laugh
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imasinger




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, May 20 2019, 8:13 am
So funny!

Anyone want to share the Israeli version of the exchange?
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