ODD when is it time to call a therapist?

amother

Sat, May 25 2019, 10:55 pm

So my pediatrician thinks my daughter has some signs of ODD.
In general she is a very cooperative child.
Accept when it comes time to do something she doesn't like.
Example the doctor the dentist, some types of homework.
So I'm wondering. When is it severe enough you need to get a therapist involved?
She does well in school, some social scenes do make her nervous.
But I don't find it ruining her quality of like or mine.
What's the opinion?

amother

Brunette

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:06 pm

How did it come up with the pediatrician? It's really unusual to jump to a conclusion like that without extensive testing. Very often anxiety presents as oppositional behavior. If your child has anxiety I would certainly think about getting her help, because she must be suffering in some way. Or it can be something else entirely. But yeah, odd is not a first line diagnosis. Very strange for the pediatrician to throw it out there in the first place.

amother

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:19 pm

Because she would not cooperate. And was acting chupatzidik

amother

Brunette

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:24 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Because she would not cooperate. And was acting chupatzidik

How old is she? Much more likely that she was anxious about a medical procedure.

amother

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:27 pm

100 percent was nervous about the doctor.
She is a very sweet child in general.

But if something makes her nervous she gets oppositional. Like the dentist.
Is that normal?

amother

Brunette

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:28 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

100 percent was nervous about the doctor.
She is a very sweet child in general.

But if something makes her nervous she gets oppositional. Like the dentist.
Is that normal?

Yes it's normal. It's also a good idea to find out how you can help her feel less nervous.

And I want to punch the pediatrician for using a term like ODD about a child who's nervous about a shot or whatever Punch

amother

Mistyrose

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:30 pm

Has your child had any negative experiences to cause her to have an "attitude" towards the pediatrician? He certainly doesn't sound very kid friendly. Time for a new doctor.

amother

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:32 pm

Anxiety and strong willed nature in general.
I have a very laid back approach when it comes to raising this child in general. And so far she seems to be doing very well.
Is extremely helpful around the house.
Helps the younger ones. Does good in school.
But if its something she doesn't feel comfortable it's a different story entirely.
I'm not sure how to talk to her to overcome those fears?

amother

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:36 pm

Yeah she doesn't like to get checked especially the places that are private.it was a she

amother

Brunette

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:41 pm

There's a good book called "what to do when you worry too much." I would start by reading it together with her, and doing the activities in the book together as well. If you have a hard time coaching her based on the book alone, you can consult with a child psychologist on your own to get more individualized advice for helping her in these specific situations.

amother

Brunette

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:42 pm

And absolutely try to gently figure out if she's had some sort of trauma in the past that triggered this. It could be a rough medical exam, an ER visit, anything really.

Stars

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:47 pm

This does not sound like ODD and definitely does not sound like a great pediatrician.

happyness

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:47 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

COMPLETELY AGE APPROPRIATE

Your doctor sounds extreme

All of us have a level of anxiety.
ETA: All children sometimes don't listen to authority.
You say your daughter's does not affect her quality of life. Let it be.

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oneofakind

Sat, May 25 2019, 11:47 pm

If she's been seeing this pediatrician she's probably traumatized. I think doctor needs a therapist to work on her bedside manner, especially if she is working with children.

amother

Sun, May 26 2019, 7:01 am

Ok. Thank you everyone for your replies you made me.feel a lot better! Smile

My dd never had a bad experience. Just she is getting older. Which makes her more uncomfortable.
I'll get that book.
Th ank you everyone again!