Why do people ease tznius rules for themselves??

amother

Khaki

Thu, May 30 2019, 11:39 am

amother [ Tan ] wrote:

Yes, OP, get ready for the bashing from all the defenders of lax tznius defenders who will tell you to MYOB so they don’t have to defend their portions of breaking halacha themselves.

I won't bash anyone because they want to wear longer skirts. I don't think clothing defines a person.
But I also don't think I have to defend myself for wearing shorter skirts because it's truly noones business, it's between me and hashem. He's the only one I have to defend my "halacha" breaking from.

TranquilityAndPeace

Thu, May 30 2019, 12:29 pm

OP, and anyone else interested in tznius, female Instagram role models, would you be open to PMing me? I've been thinking about something on this topic for a while. Or you can IG message me @chaya_braun_photography or anonymously email me through my website.

TranquilityAndPeace

Thu, May 30 2019, 12:33 pm

amother [ Khaki ] wrote:

I agree that it isn't anyone's business how long your skirts are, anymore than it isn't anyone's business if you keep all of Hilchos Shabbos correctly.

However, clothing is an outward showing that we must wear. Being naked is not an option. What we wear is a statement to the public, whether we like it or not.

Should your wardrobe statement be subject to judgement? Not in the negative sense.

Yet, it's almost impossible to notice clothing and not 'categorize and judge' - that is fashionable, that is ugly, that's what my grandmother wore, that's not fitting in the rules of tznius that I learned, that outfit is gorgeous- where did you buy it?

amother

Orchid

Thu, May 30 2019, 1:40 pm

amother [ Orange ] wrote:

You must mean the ultra-orthodox women in the 70s who wore skirts an inch or two above their knees and we’re considered perfectly Chassidish. How should we have them do teshuvah?

shloma hamelech says that for certain people it is better not to answer.

amother

Orchid

Thu, May 30 2019, 8:27 pm

amother [ Orange ] wrote:

You must mean the ultra-orthodox women in the 70s who wore skirts an inch or two above their knees and we’re considered perfectly Chassidish. How should we have them do teshuvah?

משלי כו פסוק ד
אל תען כסיל כאולתו פן תשוה לו גם אתה
משלי כו פסוק ה
ענה כסיל כאולתו פן יהיה חכם בעיניו

Do not answer a fool according to his folly lest even you become like him (mishlei 26:4)
Answer a fool according to his folly lest he be wise in his sight (mishlei 26:5)