Moms of same gender twins, were/are they in the same class?

amother

Wheat

Tue, Sep 17 2019, 10:32 am

They always knew they were individuals and we always treated them as such. We always referred to them as “Ploni and Almoni”, not as “the twins”.

Our school had only one class per grade so unless we were prepared to send our identical twin boys to another school, that was it. We’d have put them in separate classes if there had been a choice, but don’t think being together did them any harm. If they had been in separate classes there would have been the worry that one was getting a better deal—better teachers, nicer classmates, sunnier classroom—than the other.

That they had the same friends wasn’t a problem—on the contrary. they were always invited together, so there was no issue of Ploni being invited away every Shabbos and Almoni hardly ever. .

Fortunately they were both decent students and reasonably popular. One may have had slightly better grades but not enough to make a big difference. Had one been a scholar and the other a remedial student, or one the BMOC and the other an outcast, that would have been a problem even if they had been in separate classes.

Only after HS did they go to different yeshivas for their gap year, but they attended the same institutions thereafter. Now in kollel they live not far from each other and are still close. But they are very much their own men, had very different dating patterns, married very different women, and will probably eventually settle in different parts of the country.

They do dress alike, but then they dress like thousands of other yeshivish men in the black-and-white uniform. I can’t pick them out in a crowd whether they’re separate or together.

professor

Tue, Sep 17 2019, 10:36 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

My (non identical) twins are soon ready to start school. I now have the choice to send them to the school of my preference, but they only have one class per age, or I can apply to a different school, but not my first choice, but they have more than one class per age, so I can split them.
[Strong]I am [b]consciously trying to treat them as two individuals, and not just as 1 set of twins[/b].[/strong]
Were your twins in the same class? Different classes?
What was your experience?

Separate them.

professor

Tue, Sep 17 2019, 10:45 am

MyKidsRQte wrote:

I have 2 sets of non identical, same gender twins. I keep them separated for cheder/school & keep them together for daycamp. I feel like there is less competition that way. They have different personalities, and different types of smarts. One(of each set) is generally more competitive than the other. This way, they each have different set of friends

Exactly what I did. When they got older they even put themselves in separate bunks in camp, but always in the same room (in camp)