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How far in advance is good to send wedding invitations



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amother
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Post Thu, Oct 10 2019, 9:55 am
I’m not sure. We are 3 months before the wedding and it’s yomtov coming. Should I do it before succos?
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amother
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Post Thu, Oct 10 2019, 9:58 am
8-10weeks is what I think is recommended. If you have people traveling from abroad, probably more notice than that, if possible.
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amother
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Post Thu, Oct 10 2019, 9:58 am
Sounds like you might want to specify which circles you run in, how long the engagement was, etc.

I usually get invitations 3-4 weeks before the wedding.
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STMommy




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 10 2019, 10:15 am
I'd mail them right after yom tov. 6-8 weeks is acceptable.
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amother
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Post Thu, Oct 10 2019, 10:20 am
amother [ Tangerine ] wrote:
Sounds like you might want to specify which circles you run in, how long the engagement was, etc.

I usually get invitations 3-4 weeks before the wedding.

We are yeshivish. The engagement is about 4 months
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zaq




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 10 2019, 10:37 am
6-8 weeks is best, esp if you have many guests from out of town, by which I mean not The Bronx or Metuchen NJ but any place that will require either more than about 2 hours driving or overnight lodging.
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BetsyTacy




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 10 2019, 3:41 pm
I say 6 weeks for everyone. But if I am close enough with someone that they will actually be shlepping in from far, I will have given them the actual information long before then so they can arrange their schedules accordingly.
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Post Thu, Oct 10 2019, 3:51 pm
As someone who’s made three weddings.
Local— 2-3 weeks with return cards
1-2 without return cards
When you send too early people don’t always remember
Out of town 3-5 weeks
And call them or anyone else that might need to make arrangements
I had invitations that came back from israel weeks after the wedding
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SixOfWands




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 10 2019, 4:23 pm
sub wrote:
As someone who’s made three weddings.
Local— 2-3 weeks with return cards
1-2 without return cards
When you send too early people don’t always remember
Out of town 3-5 weeks
And call them or anyone else that might need to make arrangements
I had invitations that came back from israel weeks after the wedding


Yikes.

Caterers ask for final numbers 2 weeks in advance. If you don't mail out invitations until then, what do you tell them?

Also, people make plans.

If I were to receive an invitation only 2 to 3 weeks before a wedding, I'd figure that I'm on the D-List, and I'm only being invited because they need to make the numbers and there's no one else. But that may be community-based.
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sub




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Oct 10 2019, 4:32 pm
SixOfWands wrote:
Yikes.

Caterers ask for final numbers 2 weeks in advance. If you don't mail out invitations until then, what do you tell them?

Also, people make plans.

If I were to receive an invitation only 2 to 3 weeks before a wedding, I'd figure that I'm on the D-List, and I'm only being invited because they need to make the numbers and there's no one else. But that may be community-based.

Sorry. You are right. I made weddings in halls that have a minimum of 180 couples. And I and my mechutanim don’t have a large crowd. So it didn’t really did not make a difference.
There is no D list. Everyone is invited.
We are at a stage where I had 20 invites to weddings and other simchos in one month.
So yes it is definitely depends on community and other variables.
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