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Won't talk about something she saw- how to proceed?



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amother
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Post Tue, Oct 22 2019, 3:39 am
Dd10 said that something was "weird" and "funny" at our hosts home on Yom Tov. She then clammed up and wouldn't say another word.
I tried to encourage her to tell me, but she wasn't interested.

I left it off by telling her that I'm interested in hearing what happened , and she can come talk to me whenever she'd like to.

What's the best way to proceed?
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FranticFrummie




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Oct 22 2019, 4:02 am
Ask her if she'd feel comfortable going back there another time. If she says "no", then please believe her. She'll open up when she's ready.

If it's something innocent but weird, she'll tell you that, too.

You are a good mom for keeping the lines of communication open. My advice would be to not mention it for a few days, and see what happens. She's probably still processing.
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DrMom




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Oct 22 2019, 4:58 am
I wouldn't panic based on what you said. It could be anything:

Maybe their bedroom is painted bright orange (but she wasn't supposed to be snooping there, so she doesn't want to say specifically what she saw).

Maybe they have an aquarium with an octopus.

Maybe she saw a dead rat in the outside dumpster.

Don't harp on it and maybe she'll tell you. Or not.

Why assume the worst?
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amother
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Post Tue, Oct 22 2019, 5:11 pm
Let her knows she wont get in trouble for telling you then wait to see if she feels comfortable to tell you.
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amother
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Post Tue, Oct 22 2019, 6:27 pm
Maybe someone was wearing socks that looked weird and funny... or they had a balloon or a doll or toy that looked weird and funny... it could be anything.
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