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amother
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Post Thu, Nov 28 2019, 11:53 am
My 12 yr old (almost bar mitzvah!) boy is a good kid. He does well in school, has friends and seems to have had only good experiences with his rebbes/teachers. However, he can be so apethetic and sarcastic about yiddishkeit and mitzvahs. He still won't say brachas unless asked to. He'll laugh about the fact that he didn't say a bracha and then say it after hes finished eating. He'll say things like, why do I have to wash hands/, hear kiddush. I've stopped responding, because I think he enjoys the attention.
How concerned should I be? Is he still young? Is this the start of otd if not dealt with? So sad to think that all he's learning at school and at home isn't touching him at all.
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Post Thu, Nov 28 2019, 12:03 pm
Maybe he doesn't enjoy if you are nagging him
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amother
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Post Thu, Nov 28 2019, 4:25 pm
I would be worried. He doesnt sound apathetic he sounds like he is mocking Judaism, or hes angry about certain restriction and rituals.
This is just a gut feeling that maybe hes not as happy as he seems. If it were my child I would start therapy to get to the bottom of this attitude.
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Post Thu, Nov 28 2019, 4:58 pm
I knew a kid like that who went OTD. There were a lot of untreated family problems that everyone was in denial about.

Therapy sounds like a good start.
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