Bar mitzvah boy | Imamother

amother

Mon, Mar 23 2020, 8:40 am

My nephew's bar mitzvah was supposed to be next Shabbos. I am crying just thinking of what he's going through. Aside for the celebration, My DS started learning his leining a few months ago so I know what it's like- I can't imagine what a boy must be going through having spent so many hours upon hours preparing and then nothing. My heart goes out to him.
I want to do/send him something but I'm at a loss. I think I'll send him a book and game for yom tov, but that's still not "bar mitzvaish", I really want to do some thing else

Any ideas?

DrMom

Mon, Mar 23 2020, 8:49 am

First of all, when this all eventually blows over, he will have still learned how to lein, which is a valuable skill.

Perhaps his family can arrange a minyan-only reading with exactly 10 men spaced VERY far apart (in shul or in some courtyard). People have been doing this for bar-mitzvahs, weddings, etc these days.

As for what you can do: Maybe you could arrange a video conference call with him and a bunch of relatives from your side of the family who cannot be there.

amother

Cyan

Mon, Mar 23 2020, 8:52 am

My bar mitzva boy is getting a matza cover and nice hagada. He already has a pesach becher.

southernbubby

Mon, Mar 23 2020, 9:05 am

We did a Zoom bar mitzvah and the friends made a video for him but a minyon was not allowed.

amother

Purple

Mon, Mar 23 2020, 9:44 am

southernbubby wrote:

We did a Zoom bar mitzvah and the friends made a video for him but a minyon was not allowed.

Can you elaborate? My son is being bar mitzvah soon. How did the friends make a video and what was the video about? How did you do the bar mitzvah on zoom?

Did you do special decor and a fancy meal for his parents and siblings?

It would be very helpful hear more.

amother

Mon, Mar 23 2020, 10:17 am

They don't have internet, so the Zoom idea won't work Sad

I like the becher, that is something he'll remember for years and years.
Keep the ideas coming please

amother

Purple

Mon, Mar 23 2020, 12:15 pm

Here are some gift ideas, although I'm not sure how you can get a gift if stores are closed in your area.

Leather esrog box
Watch
Seforim
JBL portable speaker
Leather siddur with his name
Challah board
Alarm clock
Name stamps
Wallet ( can be personalized)
Menorah
Mp3
Spy pen video / recorder

amother

Firebrick

Mon, Mar 23 2020, 12:24 pm

We did zoom kumzitz with one bar mitzvah boy

Another one we bought the family breakfast day he put on teffilin and day of bar mitzvah.

I heard one family did a drive by where friends and family drive by in own cars holding up signs and singing and waving while bar mitzvah boy stood outside in hat.

I’m finding many bar mitzvah boys are handling it very maturly .

amother

Purple

Mon, Mar 23 2020, 3:56 pm

amother [ Firebrick ] wrote:

I like this idea!

southernbubby

Mon, Mar 23 2020, 4:36 pm

amother [ Purple ] wrote:

If you want to P.M. me, I can give you my phone number and we can discuss it. I am happy to help.

amother

Purple

Mon, Mar 23 2020, 4:56 pm

I prefer to remain anonymous.

Any way you can share a bit more here? It might help others too that face this problem in the next few months.