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amother
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:14 pm
I’m curious nowadays what are people’s minhagim with showering during the 9 days? I grew up with my family being super strict about it (like not really showering except for shabbos) but I really feel the need to shower daily and I once heard a very Chashuv and generally machmir rav say that nowadays it’s considered basic hygiene to shower daily so it’s permitted if cold during the 9 days.
So now I shower daily during the 9 days but I make it much colder than normal so that it’s no enjoyable and I hop out as soon as I can because it’s not particularly comfortable. (I used to think it had to be completely cold like not a drop of hot water at all).
What do you do?
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tigerwife
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:18 pm
After getting wet, I turn off the water while I apply shampoo, soap, and face wash. Then I turn the water on again to rinse. I also try not to use very hot water. I’d skip a shower if possible but this summer’s been incredibly hot so far.
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Sweet as Pie
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:26 pm
I shower less often and in less time. A woman needs to smell good for her husband imo
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amother
Seagreen
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:27 pm
I take a shower every day. I use lukewarm water, make it fast, and I don't stand under the running water.
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nchr
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:28 pm
I shower once per day instead of my usual twice. I don't do baths. I use cool water. My kids are also showered once daily with no baths and cool water but not as cool as me since I don't want to "torture" them.
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CatLady
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:28 pm
We're in a heat wave and I don't have air conditioning, so I take a shower in cooler water and I have the mindset that I'm doing this for health reasons, not because it feels good.
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clowny
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:32 pm
Sweet as Pie wrote: | I shower less often and in less time. A woman needs to smell good for her husband imo |
Agree.
A day that I was indoors with ac all day, I don’t shower. Also, I shower with much cooler water.
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giselle
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:39 pm
I never even knew this was a thing until very recently. I always thought these days everyone showers as it’s considered basic hygiene and not a luxury. We take quicker showers and try not to make the water very hot.. which I always forget to do..
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amother
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:41 pm
Even though I have ac just running outside for a minute to and from work or to drop/pick up from camp I get so sweaty and gross. I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who does regular cold showers.
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amother
Black
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:42 pm
I might skip a day if I don’t feel too icky. I wash my hair less often, as it doesn’t need it as much and is covered anyway. When I do wash up, it’s with cooler water and I use the handheld to wash limb by limb. I don’t stand under the shower completely.
Usually I love relaxing in very hot water.
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Chayalle
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:42 pm
I wash one body part at at a time. e.g. I wet my hair, shampoo, and then rinse by sticking my head under faucet of tub. Wash face, rinse with water. I wash my arms, rinse them, doing each body part etc....till I'm clean.
My girls take cooler, shorter showers, for hygiene not pleasure.
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amother
Cerise
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:44 pm
Fewer showers than usual, shorter, cooler.
Shampoo twice instead of three times during the week.
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Penina94
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:45 pm
While it’s so crucial to keep all laws during the 9 days it’s very difficult not to shower specially in very hot weather.I shower every couple of days with cold water ...I just do my thing and dry and out I go.I find no pleasure in it because in my mind its a fast thing in order freshen up.
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crust
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 12:45 pm
I grew up like you OP and I remember in camp seeing other girls shower and feeling like what? That's against halacha!
Then I got married and I heard that a woman is allowed to do whatever it takes
כדי שלא יתגנה.
I was also told that whatever you do you should do so b'tzina.
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amother
Brown
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 1:04 pm
My parents dont shower at all in the nine days besides Shabbos and that is really gross! Even as I kid I showered. I shower pretty much the same as usual - maybe I'll skip one shower a week but I try to take shorter showers.
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SuperWify
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 1:05 pm
I usually take very hot showers. So during shavouah sh’chol bo I take hot-ish showers. And I don’t linger.
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amother
Mistyrose
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 1:10 pm
Whoever doesnt shower in this heat please dont go between other people. Its gross
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tichellady
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 1:13 pm
Didn’t know people didn’t shower. Was taught just not to take a bath or leisure shower although this year during the pandemic I am taking relaxing showers since I have few ways to unwind and need to maintain my sanity
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amother
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 1:13 pm
crust wrote: | I grew up like you OP and I remember in camp seeing other girls shower and feeling like what? That's against halacha!
Then I got married and I heard that a woman is allowed to do whatever it takes
כדי שלא יתגנה.
I was also told that whatever you do you should do so b'tzina. |
What does יתנגה mean? Also when you say b’tzina do you mean privately? Like don’t advertise that you shower? Or am I totally misunderstanding that word? 🙈
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crust
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Tue, Jul 28 2020, 1:21 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote: | What does יתנגה mean? Also when you say b’tzina do you mean privately? Like don’t advertise that you shower? Or am I totally misunderstanding that word? 🙈 |
I don't know if I quoted the pasuk correctly but it means that a woman is allowed to do what it takes so her husband doesn't get turned off by her (smell).
Yes you understood the tzina part...
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