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Sat, Aug 08 2020, 7:22 pm
Shabbos is so long for me . I never used to complain about shabbos because honestly it's my best day of the week and still is. Just one problem. I have NO company whatsoever! My neighbors that used to be so friendly and outgoing all became reserved people. For me it's very hard since I need to have atleast one or two people I can smhooze with or meet up . That's not happening right now where I live. I have a small family and they go with my husband to Shul so basically I'm by myself, And shabbos is too long for me to spend by myself . I do enjoy my husband and spend time with him too. I just definitely need more people around and I'm feeling so sad when shabbos is over, feeling I accomplished nothing or I feel very isolated and missing socially out . I'm not looking here for validation, I'm rather asking if anyone else feels this way and how do u push trhough shabbos without seeing any people outside your home , since For me it's such a challenge!
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amother
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Sat, Aug 08 2020, 7:25 pm
Same issue here. I probably told my DH 5x this shabbos that shabbos is way too long. No company, kids are self occupied. How much can I read? Or eat? No ideas just validation. I can’t go anywhere myself because can’t leave kids alone and nowhere to go with them.
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amother
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Sat, Aug 08 2020, 7:35 pm
Can you start a Tehillim group in your home?
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Chana Miriam S
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Sat, Aug 08 2020, 7:41 pm
We spend our day reading, playing games with our two adult children and going for a very long walk. My parents usually join us for one meal but no other guests.
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Cmon be nice
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Sat, Aug 08 2020, 7:51 pm
Why did your neighbors become reserved? Are they scared of corona?
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sunnys
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Sat, Aug 08 2020, 8:00 pm
I feel the same way! Just validating ur not the only one. I read books, went on long walks played games with my kids and still kept looking at the clock. Normally I would host but since corona finances have been very tight.
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Mama Bear
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Sat, Aug 08 2020, 9:43 pm
I sleep in in the morning, read in the afternoon, play games with the kids, and maybe go out with the kids late afternoon. I never have company or neighbors etc.
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giselle
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Sat, Aug 08 2020, 9:45 pm
Do you like reading? I look forward to relaxing and reading on shabbos.
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nchr
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Sat, Aug 08 2020, 9:52 pm
Do you like to sleep? When our kids go to cousins or grandparents for Shabbos DH and I literally spend the entire Shabbos sleeping (except when he is in shul or learning in the afternoon but I sleep then too) There is somethibg very special about sleeping relaxing in quiet.
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amother
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Sat, Aug 08 2020, 9:56 pm
If I have a good book I eat sleep and read. It’s not so bad and in a way it’s relaxing. I got a list of good books and I keep getting more from the same author and books that are recommended as close to the style and subject of this author
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rivkam
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Sat, Aug 08 2020, 10:00 pm
OP I can totally relate. I like a little bit of time to read and be alone but I mainly find being with other people truly relaxing and exactly what I need at the end of the week. We dont really have room for guests anymore but we do go away for shabbat alot.
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Tzippy323
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Mon, Aug 10 2020, 8:14 pm
I can totally relate. Only, I have even more of a problem because I am an almana and 5 of my children have married and one has moved out. To say that Shabbos is long doesn’t even start to express what I go through. Don’t get me wrong, I love Shabbos, but now there is almost no contact with anyone on Shabbos due to covid, and I am at high risk, so no place to go. I found that eating my seudah later in the day helps a bit. Some of my sons send me divre Torah’s that I print out and read at my meals. I also make myself a really special treat for shalosh seudos, and another for Malave Malka. It’s hard, no question, but b”H, the days are starting to get shorter.
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ExtraCredit
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Mon, Aug 10 2020, 8:39 pm
Tzippy323 wrote: | I can totally relate. Only, I have even more of a problem because I am an almana and 5 of my children have married and one has moved out. To say that Shabbos is long doesn’t even start to express what I go through. Don’t get me wrong, I love Shabbos, but now there is almost no contact with anyone on Shabbos due to covid, and I am at high risk, so no place to go. I found that eating my seudah later in the day helps a bit. Some of my sons send me divre Torah’s that I print out and read at my meals. I also make myself a really special treat for shalosh seudos, and another for Malave Malka. It’s hard, no question, but b”H, the days are starting to get shorter. |
Ouch! That must be tough! Do you enjoy to read? Perhaps treat yourself to reading material every week.
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amother
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Mon, Aug 10 2020, 8:53 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote: | Shabbos is so long for me . I never used to complain about shabbos because honestly it's my best day of the week and still is. Just one problem. I have NO company whatsoever! My neighbors that used to be so friendly and outgoing all became reserved people. For me it's very hard since I need to have atleast one or two people I can smhooze with or meet up . That's not happening right now where I live. I have a small family and they go with my husband to Shul so basically I'm by myself, And shabbos is too long for me to spend by myself . I do enjoy my husband and spend time with him too. I just definitely need more people around and I'm feeling so sad when shabbos is over, feeling I accomplished nothing or I feel very isolated and missing socially out . I'm not looking here for validation, I'm rather asking if anyone else feels this way and how do u push trhough shabbos without seeing any people outside your home , since For me it's such a challenge! |
I started learning the parsha every week with English translation, saying tehillim, taking a nap and before you know it the day us over. Try to do something worthwhile and spiritual and you won’t feel so bad.
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amother
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Mon, Aug 10 2020, 8:55 pm
Tzippy323 wrote: | I can totally relate. Only, I have even more of a problem because I am an almana and 5 of my children have married and one has moved out. To say that Shabbos is long doesn’t even start to express what I go through. Don’t get me wrong, I love Shabbos, but now there is almost no contact with anyone on Shabbos due to covid, and I am at high risk, so no place to go. I found that eating my seudah later in the day helps a bit. Some of my sons send me divre Torah’s that I print out and read at my meals. I also make myself a really special treat for shalosh seudos, and another for Malave Malka. It’s hard, no question, but b”H, the days are starting to get shorter. |
Do you have the book On My Own But Not Alone?
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