Best marriage advice/tips

shmoosh

Sun, Sep 06 2020, 4:43 am

Talk to your husband and be open. Tell him when you need him to encourage you talk. Let your husband help you if you need help. Be open about what feels good for you intimately and never pretend something feels good if it doesn't. Your husband is part of you now. Allow yourself to trust him and build your trust for him.
Men like to take care of their wives so let him take care of you. He doesn't feel like it's a burden and it actually makes him feel very manly and is good for your relationship.
Let your husband deal with finances unless he's learning, in that case involve him though. Men feel manly and feel like they are doing a good job being a husband when you give them opportunity to work that muscle. Don't be shy of what you need emotionally and physically.
Read books like men are from mars and the surrendered wife. They will enhance your relationship.
Let yourself get emotional, marriage is an adjustment. Let your husband take care of you when you're overwhelmed.
This is coming from someone married a little over 7 months for frame of reference.
Mazel tov and enjoy!

momX4

Sun, Sep 06 2020, 7:05 am

Have a weekly date. Location doesnt matter. It can be Sunday breakfast, coffee, dessert or a full dinner. Its important to go out. Stick with 2 rules. No discussions of money or kids

My relationship was better when we did this weekly.

shabbatiscoming

Sun, Sep 06 2020, 8:48 am

Marriage is work. Anything worth anything in life, you have to put an effort into it. The more effort/work you put in, the more you will get out of it.
Communication. Probably one of the most important asprcts of marriage. Talk to your spouse about things that bother you. Dont bottle it up.

healthymom1

Sun, Sep 06 2020, 9:14 am

Don't talk about him or your relationship to multiple people. Choose 1 person if you need to vent and thats it. Its no ones business to know your momentary opinion of him (good or not good). They won't ever know your relationship well enough to understand and will end up seeing your husband in different light - which isnt fair to either of you

Date night is a must

Always care for him, even if youre upset. If you always make dinner- continue to do so through a tough time. If you always greet him at the door - continue to do so even if upset at him. Etc.

Everything can be said in a nice tone.

essie14

Sun, Sep 06 2020, 9:52 am

Prioritize your relationship.
Your needs should be met, his needs should be met, and the relationship's needs should be met.
Date night is nurturing the relationship.
Doing kind things for each other.

yersp

Sun, Sep 06 2020, 10:24 am

Men are not mind readers, if you need something, say it. For example: if you're feeling overwhelmed with shabbos prep, ask for help. Don't assume that your husband will understand hints from your huffing and puffing.
Don't talk thru text especially during shana rishona. Try to have all conversations in person. Eventually you will be able to discern certain nuances and you'll be able to hear his voice while reading his messages but it takes time to get to that stage. So many misunderstandings can be prevented by having face to face conversations.