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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 8:38 am
I regret not putting in even more energy into raising each of my children while they were still young.
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amother
Purple
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 8:58 am
I regret giving my 8 year old a choice between going on a school trip or coming on a family trip. (They coincided.) She was up miserable all night stressed over the decision. From then I learned that giving choices are great for small decisions, but it's my responsibility to decide big decisions. I should not have put that on her.
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amother
Khaki
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Wed, Sep 09 2020, 11:42 pm
First of all I regret always looking back, analyzing the past and always having regrets.
But there are many things I regret.
I regret not getting help for my husband when I saw things were wrong with him and instead led it escalate into a major mental health crisis for him.
I regret not appreciating getting pregnant easily in the past (as it’s proving very difficult for me now to get pregnant)
I regret being a controlling, demanding wife.
I regret being judgmental and critical of people. But I can say bH that that’s something I was able to fix and worked on myself a lot to change that.
I regret keeping some unhealthy friendships in my life for way too long. (Jealous friend that totally was toxic for me...)
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Aqua
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Thu, Sep 10 2020, 1:47 am
HeartyAppetite wrote: | I used to leave my 2 year old in the bathtub with about 1-2 inches of water And toys themselves, while I did household chores. I frequently checked up on him so I thought it was safe. I actually posted it on imamother once, and I appreciate the women That made me aware of how dangerous it was. It was a true learning moment. |
I remember you (or someone else) writing about that. I'm impressed with how you wrote this. It's hard to hear that we are doing something wrong and not become super defensive.
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Aqua
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Thu, Sep 10 2020, 1:49 am
A mistake I made that I regret is being too strict with food with my children- my oldest especially. We live this life and should enjoy this life and if they eat a little more sugar and fewer vegetables then I think they should it wont be so horrible. This is something I'm still working on.
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amother
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Mon, Sep 14 2020, 7:42 am
In the depths of my postpartum depression, I told my 2 year old that I'm leaving and I'm never coming back. She's almost 5 now and still occasionally gets worried that I'll follow through on that. I only said it twice but it was so damaging for my anxious little girl. I try to give her lots of love and security and I tell her almost daily that I'll never leave her and I love being her mommy and hopefully with time she'll internalize that.
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ChanieMommy
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Mon, Sep 14 2020, 8:11 am
I regret not having had the serenity I have now...
I feel I was too much in the action, too much about making things happen rather than letting things happen, so I believe I put too much pressure on the whole family...
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ChanieMommy
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Mon, Sep 14 2020, 8:14 am
amother [ Purple ] wrote: | I regret giving my 8 year old a choice between going on a school trip or coming on a family trip. (They coincided.) She was up miserable all night stressed over the decision. From then I learned that giving choices are great for small decisions, but it's my responsibility to decide big decisions. I should not have put that on her. |
That's so true!
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Pink
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Mon, Sep 14 2020, 8:17 am
Hashem_n_Farfel wrote: | I regret leaving my then newborn baby in his basinet after getting really aggravated and I had to leave the room into the kitchen where I BH calmed down.
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I don't think this is a mistake. It is responsible parenting. If you have a screaming baby that won't calm down, and you are getting agitated or overwhelmed, it is advised that the baby be placed in a safe place, such as a crib or bassinet, and the parent go into another room to calm down.
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Ivory
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Mon, Sep 14 2020, 9:45 am
Debbie wrote: | I'm not sure if this is a parenting mistake, but despite all my efforts I failed in my efforts to breastfeed my first baby; sadly I was at the receiving end of some rather mean comments from other frum mothers, which lead to me feeling like a failure and worse that I didn't deserve to be a mother.
My mistake was that I was so focused on that one aspect of mothering that I had failed at that I didn't look at or think about everything I was doing well.
One mother even told me "You didn't try hard enough!" I wish I'd had the courage to reply "You're not trying hard enough to be a kind and understanding person." |
Omg that's actually horrible!! You went through so much to have a baby and care for a baby. I didn't nurse any of my kids and you know what it's no one's business!! My kids aren't any different than kids that are nursed. That is so narrow-minded. Yes I also felt like on the receiving end of that comment once. This really bothers me!!
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