Confused. Non of my kids are night trained

amother

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 1:13 am

So non of my kids are night trained, 4 kids between the age 9-3, never had an issue day training p, but night training I tried my older 2 but never worked knowing that it’s in my hub family, as he himself wet the bed almost till he got married, he claimed not to try to hard as he thinks nothin really can help. Was by my Shvigger for YT and we had that discussion she claims to please try to do something, since she never really tried to hard knowing it runs in her family at now 2 children who are married already still wet the bed.
I’m so confused what should I do?

amother

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 1:19 am

amother [ Powderblue ] wrote:

Speak to your children's pediatrician

OP here. Sorry forgot to mention the pediatrician also told me not to push them as they will outgrow it, but now after what MIL told me I’m confused

amother

Powderblue

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 1:23 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

OP here. Sorry forgot to mention the pediatrician also told me not to push them as they will outgrow it, but now after what MIL told me I’m confused

I feel like knowing the history I wouldn't do anything until after age 5. That's pretty normal anyways. Is the 9 year old concerned about it? Maybe you can tell the pediatrician you'd like to visit a urologist or other specialist, especially if your child is on board. Most importantly, what does DH say? It's a sensitive issue and you wouldn't want to do something like pursue if at 9 when thats at least 10 years away from a wedding if your DH would be hurt.

amother

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 1:30 am

amother [ Powderblue ] wrote:

As I said in our family it was never an issue what so ever, and Dh doesn’t sound concerned he claims that when his mother tried to make it better it anyway didn’t work and it was just driving him nuts.

amother

Babyblue

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 2:01 am

For a 7 year old I was told no drinking the last hour before bed. Make him go to the bathroom 4 times in a row before going into bed. I have 2 bathrooms so we made it into a game he went back and forth between the 2. Wake him after 1-2 hours and take to the bathroom. Did all this for about 2 months and he’s been trained since. (He’s over bar mitzvah now)

amother

Maroon

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 3:26 am

Hi
That sounds stressful.
Since you're saying it runs in the family I'm not sure if what I experienced will help you, but it's worth a shot.
So Dr also said to limit drinks before bed, but that just made him more desperate to drink more Wink

I have him go several times before he goes to sleep and I take him to the bathroom before I go to sleep (when I take him, he's 3/4 sleeping, but it's fine, it works). I'm pretty sure that on the nights that I can't do it (say he goes to sleep close to me etc, he's still okay) AND, I have found that giving him a Goodnite pullup will usually result in him peeing in it. This is my younger son.

My older one, I think I tried lots of things, including a vibrating alarm clock to awake him during night to go, but I think ultimately what worked was his body figured it out - he was probably 8/9. (I'm always fascinated by the kids that get trained for day/night at same time and go to sleep in underwear at 3) in my case, I think the 'issue' is on my side of the family not husbands if that's possible I know I had one sibling that it stopped on it's own, but he was pretty old, I'm pretty sure it was still an issue around bar mitzvah time.

amother

Periwinkle

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 3:44 am

Bed wetting can be genetic however your older one is definitely big enough to try and work on it. Mine did very well with the malem alarm at around their age but was very motivated. Idk how your child feels about it. The alarm was covered by my insurance once my doctor gave me a script but you can also by it on Amazon.

amother

Goldenrod

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 3:54 am

Finish eating and drinking 2 hours before bed.
Desmopressin taken an hour before bed.
Take to the bathroom twice before bed about 15 minutes apart.
Night alarm clock (cheapest ones about $30 work fine).
Need to be very consistent.
May be a problem of small bladder or may be a muscle problem not releasing everything. Go to a pediatric urologist.

amother

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 3:43 pm

OP here. im so confused I called everyone that I could today. First called my DR said I shouldn't worry about it. Then called my SIL since she is also struggling with her kids, I told her what MIL told me, she told me one is her hub, he is still not dry at night, but they tried everything and anything possible so far nothing helped, she claimed not to make the kids crazy its not there fault, if I wont take a pressure from it it wont be a problem, it only becomes a problem when you stress about it, I should just take it easy and Daven to hasham

FranticFrummie

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 3:53 pm

If it's genetic, there is nothing you can do about it, except invest in pull-ups.

I have a friend who had 6 kids who all wet the bed. Her DH wet until he was around 17, and that's when her kids started to finally have some dry nights - but still had the occasional accidents.

She taught her kids how to do their own laundry, and to shower themselves every morning, so that made things easier.

She had a great attitude. She just accepted it, and said "This should be my worst nisayon."

amother

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 3:56 pm

FranticFrummie wrote:

Thanks so much for your chizuk, and telling me about your friend who had the same issue, everyone who knows my husbands family are telling me the same thing.

amother

Tangerine

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 4:18 pm

An adult still wetting the bed should be visiting a doctor. Something sounds odd here. While it's normal for kids to wet the bed until older ages, sometimes even thirteen especially boys, there is still no reason not to try anything. I would speak to your doctor and come up with a plan. There are doctors that specialize in this.

amother

Tue, Sep 29 2020, 4:20 pm

amother [ Tangerine ] wrote:

I agree that an adult is an issue, would anyone know any DRs who specialize in it, since my DR claims not to do anything as of now