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Post Thu, Nov 26 2020, 8:48 pm
behappy2 wrote:
Another idea that I just remembered is to change him into a new pair of pjs. We did this also. She just loved wearing pjs so instead of changing her into clean clothes I changed her into clean pjs.


Not him. Getting him into pjs is a job too. Everything is. Eating, walking, changing, dressing.
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Post Thu, Nov 26 2020, 8:49 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote:
Not him. Getting him into pjs is a job too. Everything is. Eating, walking, changing, dressing.


Maybe look into OT. Do you know why everything is a fight?
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amother
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Post Thu, Nov 26 2020, 11:19 pm
behappy2 wrote:
Maybe look into OT. Do you know why everything is a fight?


He seems to enjoy it.
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amother
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Post Thu, Nov 26 2020, 11:41 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote:
He seems to enjoy it.


Which aspect of it do you think he enjoys?
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amother
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Post Fri, Nov 27 2020, 12:05 am
amother [ Royalblue ] wrote:
Which aspect of it do you think he enjoys?


Just doing the opposite of what he needs to be doing.
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ggdm




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Nov 27 2020, 3:38 am
My little dragon is 2.5 as well. His favorite word is "no" and he likes to do just the opposite of what I want... I think they all are like that. So thanks for all the ideas on this thread!

What helps with my little dragon sometimes is one of these:
- "are you big enough already to put on shoes? show me!"
- "do you want to put on your shirt by yourself or should I do it"
- "if you don't put on your pants now, I am going to do it" (as he wants to do it alone, that is a threat)
- "do you want to go do X? yes? then we need the shoes first"
- "what is the thing we always do when we get home? yes, wash hands. how great that you remember"
- "if you don't put on your jacket now, I will have to go alone, bye!"
- "now I need to get changed all by myself, it's so much more fun with you"
- "do you want to help me wash MY hands?"

But it takes about 15 minutes each day to get dressed or wash hands or put on shoes. We resigned and get up earlier... and we don't fight the details. If he wants rain boots on a sunny day and this will get him to put on shoes - whatever. Orange shirt and brown scarf with red shoes - whatever. We take along other clothes and shoes and eventually he changes. Or not. It's not worth my energy.

Gam ze yaavor...
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Post Fri, Nov 27 2020, 8:03 am
amother [ OP ] wrote:
Just doing the opposite of what he needs to be doing.


I'm assuming you're tried reverse psychology? (Not that I think this is a preferred chinuch method)

Today we arent able to get dressed and we need to go in pjs.

Mommy forgot to do laundry so we don't have any clothing for Shmuel.

This reminds me my daughter loves to be in control and when she was littler I did lots of choices. Do you want the pink or blue top? No! The green. Ok, here is the green. No, the blue. Ok, here is the blue, no the pink. This went on every day (to some degree still does, however I think she's exhausted from all her decisions. Now every so often she tells me to choose and whatever I choose she goes "that's just what I wanted!" )


Whatever you do try your best not have a power struggle on your hands. He will outgrow it eventually. Hatzlocha!
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