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amother
Blonde


 

Post Thu, Dec 03 2020, 7:50 pm
Moms side is all American. Her siblings families are either very modern or not even keeping Shabbos. Dad's side is Satmar. My siblings and I call him Totty even though we wore jeans and tanktops and ate out at Mcdonalds (never the meat only the fish sandwiches lol). Then us children all became more frum and my brother became Satmar to the chagrin of my parents lol. But now it's all good and we're all close and we grew up visiting my Satmar side who were very accepting and loving even though we were technically the black sheep of the family.
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amother
Ruby


 

Post Thu, Dec 03 2020, 9:17 pm
Wow I always thought I’m the outcast of my school.. Thought everyone has regular families where everyone is the same - besides for me.. lol

My mom’s parents are bts and her siblings are either very modern or secular, completely non observant. She is the only jpf type of her family.

My dad’s parents are very yeshivish, some of his siblings are yeshivish, some MO. Extended family is mostly MO and secular. My dad himself turned out to be a mix of yeshivish and chasidish if that makes any sense. I’m not chasidish, my sister is chasidish, and the rest of my siblings are still in their teens trying to figure it all out.
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amother
Fuchsia


 

Post Thu, Dec 03 2020, 9:22 pm
We are a mix of stolin, satmar, yeshivish, jpf, mo and totally not frum.
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amother
Slategray


 

Post Thu, Dec 03 2020, 9:33 pm
My parents grew up traditional or borderline religious, but not really frum. Among their siblings it goes from completely assimilated, to borderline religious, to MO/ JPF. The next generation is a mix of MO and yeshivish. Family pictures are pretty colorful.

One thing I don’t have in my family is Chassidim. My MIL is from a heimish background but there really isn’t any of that left.
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amother
Khaki


 

Post Thu, Dec 03 2020, 9:51 pm
My father is a BT and my moms parents are BT
On my fathers side, we have first cousins who are atheists, modern orthodox, lesbian but religious (not sure how that works), some sort of DL where women read from the torah, yeshivish, sefardi, and jpf (I guess I’d call the ppl who are regular frum but not anything specific), in the first cousins once removed range we have some who are sadly not even Jewish 😢
On my moms side, we are mostly jpf and yeshivish, with some chasidish and some second cousins are actually Jewish Mormons. I do speak to them and they came to my wedding. One of the family members in that side of the family is now religious and sefardi.
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princessleah




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Dec 04 2020, 11:18 am
In my family I'm one of the least frum relatives and in my DH's family we're probably the most frum. :-)

A lot of my father's family came to the US before WWII. They are a rebbishe family and are varying degrees of Hassidish/Hassidish minhagim. I grew up in an MO community because we ended up OOT and that's what was available. My parents are modern thinkers and both highly educated. My father likes to find a shtiebel to daven in and wears a gartel and hat but is very modern in his thinking. He has one cousin who identifies as Conservative and the rest are frum. My mother's family came from Hungary post-WWII, they were Satmar-adjacent. One of the branches ended up in a far away country and they are not so observant. Everyone else is like modern yeshivish/heimish and one branch is heavily Chassidish.

On my DH's side, one of his grandparents grew up in America, which was so unfathomable to me. The whole family is Conservative or Reform. He is not close with his cousins (not because of religious differences), some simchas we are invited to, some not. We went to a bat-mitzvah of his cousin who is Reform and they served shrimp as an appetizer and cheeseburgers for the main course. I drank a lot :-)
I was all appalled and he consistently reminds me that it's ok for people to be less observant than we are and to stop being so judgmental. So I have been working on that.

My own sibling is not Orthodox but affiliates as Conservative, but in practice they are pretty much Reform.
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Chayalle




 
 
    
 

Post Fri, Dec 04 2020, 11:36 am
My parents come from a Chassidish background in that their parents (my grandparents) were raised Chassidish before the Holocaust. Though they maintained ties to their Rebbe/Chassidus after the war, they did not raise their children to be Chassidish. My parents went to more Litvish-style Yeshivas and BY's, college, etc...

I grew up sort of with Chassidus in the background. Like if the Rebbe (Visnitz from E"Y) came to the US, my father would go for a Shabbos, or for whatever event was held. If we went to E"Y, we stopped in to see the Rebbe.

(cute story - when I was in seminary, my father came and we went to see the Rebbe. He gave me a Bracha that I would marry a Viznitz Bachur (his words). I was not very pleased with his Bracha at the time, and told my father I was not becoming Chassidish, and that makes no sense..... So...my DH, similar to my family, comes from a Visnitz background thru his father, though he's Litvish in pretty much every other way and learned in Telz, Mir, etc...his mother comes from a thoroughly Litvish family.)

I also have relatives who remained Chassidish and so does DH, so we have lots of cousins who are Visnitz. I also have cousins I feel close to, on my mother's side of the family, who are Klausenberg Chassidim. So I've had lots of Chassidish exposure.

Just exactly a year ago now I was in E"Y with my DD for a family Simcha, and the Rebbe gave her a beautiful Bracha that she will marry the right person. I took this Bracha, from the son of the Rebbe who gave me my Bracha, much more seriously, and I appreciate it very much.
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amother
White


 

Post Sat, Dec 05 2020, 11:20 am
My mom grew up JPF in the 60s, dad was BT.
My mom has a brother who became chassidish and one who is MO.
Chassidish uncle's kids are all chassidish.
MO uncle has some MO kids and 1 not frum.
My father has a sister who is MO with MO kids, and a chareidi brother with kids who are chareidi and yeshivish.
I grew up modern yeshivish, I'm MO now. I have a brother who is not frum, and some yeshivish, JPF, MO siblings.
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amother
Ginger


 

Post Sat, Dec 05 2020, 12:20 pm
I grew up JPF. My grandparents were chasidish before the war (Visnitz). My parents were raised in Yiddish speaking homes. My parents sent us to litvish style frum schools. I am MO now. My siblings range from MO to yeshivish to yeshivish modern. We all get along great.
My extended family ranges from MO, yeshivish to OTD. I have no close chasidish cousins. Many of my grandparents families were murdered HY”D in the war and have no descendants. The ones who left before the war, most of them didn’t bring chassidus with them to America.
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Chickensoupprof




 
 
    
 

Post Sat, Dec 05 2020, 12:37 pm
My dad's family grew up catholic my father went OTD and is an atheist nowadays.
My mom's father was from a typical Dutch Protestant (Dutch reformed? is the term I dunno) mom's mother was from a socialist Amsterdam Jewish family, they one of the last people in lineage who had a chuppah (my chuppah was the first in more than 80 years) they did a bris for their son though, but they weren't religious. My mom didn't know anything about Yiddishkeit she thought it had something to do with socialism. I think in her late teens she got to know it was a re, religion. After the war my grandma moved in with her aunt and uncle who lost a child and just had a baby and found another baby they had some yekkishe/jewish minhagim my mother recalls now since I've become frum. Like her grandma always had a Friday night with a white table cloth but didn't lit candles, when my mom saw with her cousin the other men walking to shul and saying 'gut sjabbes' to them they ran to their grandfather and said asked what shabbas was and why they didn't go to shul. He was very upset, opened a bottle took a becher mumbled some Hebrew and screamed at them 'THIS IS SHABBOS AND I NEVER WANT TO HEAR ANYTHING ABOUT IT'.

Also my mom had a very yidddihse kopf and my grandma now 86 k'ah says ''I didn't like you looked so Jewish'. So that is my bakcground I started the new frum generation in almost 90 years? Hi Hi
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My husbands parents are BT, one went really really chareidi yeshivish and the other is still more MO but. Two of my DH siblings are OTD one is extremly yeshivish, one yeshish lite and two are MO we are mengled because I got frum within Chabad but always davent ashkenazi I feeel strong to chassidus
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amother
Jetblack


 

Post Sat, Dec 05 2020, 8:51 pm
If you mean extended family, say third to fifth cousins, we run the gamut from intermarried to Lubavitch.
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amother
Lilac


 

Post Sat, Dec 05 2020, 10:31 pm
Both sides of my parents families have been in the USA for many generations. A great, great grandmother is the most recent immigrant. Everyone else has been here a long time.

I'm a convert.

My DH is a convert. He knows nothing about the origins of his family. Weirdly.

This is my path, I know, but I can't help but envy those with Jewish ancestors and history.
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amother
Cobalt


 

Post Sat, Dec 05 2020, 11:47 pm
My parents are probably best described as JPF. Both went through the Yeshiva/BY system, but one set of grandparents are right wing MO. I grew up out of town in a mostly MO kind of setting but with lots of exposureto the Yeshivish world. My extended family is along the spectrum from Yeshivish to pretty modern, and they are proud of that specrum.

DH grew up LWMO/Conservadox, became more Frum through Chabad, and is now Chassidish living in a primarily Litvish community. His siblings are basically like his parents, give or take, and his extended family runs the gamut of Traditional but not Frum to Modern Yeshivish.
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