Vacation alone | Imamother

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Denim

Tue, Feb 09 2021, 5:15 pm

And I love every minute of it.
Most recently, spent a weekend at our vacation house. Just me, the woods, privacy. It was perfect. I try to take a mental health break by myself every few months, for a night or two at least. Last summer, I went to the Jersey shore and spent a week. Made myself organic, green meals, went for massages, facials and attended some art classes. It was also amazing. I sat on the beach and relaxed all evening, enjoying my own company. Read a book, listened to some music. It's so important to take time for yourself because if you don't, how will you take care of everyone else? Every year, I go to FL for a work thing that lasts a week. I have my own hotel room, schmooze all day and attend conferences, lunches, dinners, etc. but still make time for a massage or just to sit on my hotel porch, relaxing. It's hard work but also me time to be someone other than a wife and mother. To be a professional who's actually good at my job. And its fun to go places alone. It's also fun to go somewhere with just a girlfriend. Last summer, my bestie and I took the train to Rhode Island and roamed through the gorgeous mansions there and spent four days just chilling. Maybe taking these trips for myself makes me selfish but whatever. I come back better equipped to handle my life.

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Amethyst

Tue, Feb 09 2021, 5:15 pm

I'm really introverted but I'd still miss dh. I went on a work trip to California for 3 days, hotels and food paid for, and still missed him (the kids not so much lol). Same when he convinced me to go to a kimpeturin heim. But if you're vacationing to get away from him then you shouldn't have this problem

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Khaki

Tue, Feb 09 2021, 5:20 pm

amother [ Amethyst ] wrote:

Vacationing alone doesn't mean that we want to get away from DH. Not everyone's husband can take off and the wife can really use a break so the only option is to go alone. I'm desperate for a break but I'm scared to go alone. I'm thinking of going to La'isha in Lakewood for afew days, they're also a women's vacation place.

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Lawngreen

Tue, Feb 09 2021, 6:16 pm

I'd love to. And it's not specifically that I want to get away from dh, but that I need some time when absolutely nobody needs me for anything. Just me time. I would love to rent a one bedroom with a view somewhere in nature with a hot tub and quiet. Somewhere I could just sit outside and be, skip meals if I feel like it or eat them whenever, follow my own rhythms.

Not happening any time soon. Dh would be supremely insulted. And yes, I have explained- it's not something he can understand. And he likes to have a plan for every day, wake up early to fit things in, have full meals, etc.